Do you love or hate touch?

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My gender is a mystery and I like any type of touch, just as long as it's appropriate.

I equate phyiscal contact with intimacy. Therefore, I dislike being touched by strangers, and even by friends and family members. I also can't have it if people stand too close to me.

I am both hypersensitive to touch and seek it... its an interesting combination.

As a whole I'd say only people who are close to me should touch me, but it can be wider than only intimate partner. My boyfriend's the only one I make touch me though, even if I need a hug I won't initiate it with anyone else.

I only like to be touched by people I want to be touched by and it is only one person for the moment. I do not like being intimate with a person, it scares me. Though I need pressure somehow and as a child I already made a system out of matresses to get pressure. But sometimes I need pressure from a person.

I think I always wanted to like touch more than I've been able to.

I'm fine with it from my girlfriend and like it very much.

I'm okay with it from people I know when I know it's coming, though I'm not sure I get much of anything out of it. I just like being able to engage in the social behavior of shaking hands or hugging. It makes me feel more like I fit in and act like a regular person. I don't always need to feel that way, but I recognize engaging in this kind of touch as an important part of behaving in a way that makes people more willing to accept my weirdnesses in other respects.

I'm uncomfortable with it from people who surprise me, though I can sometimes catch myself and react smoothly if it turns out to be someone I know and otherwise feel comfortable with.

I hate it from people who try to force it upon me, however innocent they may think the form of it is. I also hate it in forms that go beyond the ordinary, light stuff people do all the time, such as when someone I don't know well gets a bit too familiar in greeting me. I can think of at least one person who might experience bodily harm if he tries that again, as he has been made aware of my discomfort before.

It disturbs me greatly to see others endure unwanted touch of any sort at any level.

When I was young, I came to realize there was often a sexual element to physical contact with other people. Maybe it's just some sort of hyper-awareness thing. This made me uncomfortable, especially with people I had no interest in, but even with someone I had a crush on. I thought I'd like having someone I liked hug me or make other minor contact with me, and then I found out how unpleasant it actually was. Maybe it was because of the conflict between the pleasant feelings of the crush and the lack of benefit of the actual touch. Later on, I also realized that having even the most minor and innocent contact with someone I have unrequited feelings for makes me feel creepy. I certainly hate that!

I trust one person with my body. She can cuddle me all she likes - though I still prefer to know it's coming.

Personally I don't understand how people can get a massage by a perfect stranger and feel relaxed, for me it would be much more stressing then relaxing. I warned my husband about that, don't ever get me a free massage (I mean by a professional) as a gift because it would be one of the worse gift you could give me.

I don't like being touched, but I like touching others. Of course the people I touch need to have clean good skin and are not too thin. Oh and hopefully they're not smelly, either.

I love being touched. I can't get enough of it, but I only really like it from my girlfriend. I don't mind being touched by friends and stuff, especially if it's someone I know really well, but it's still a bit awkward and unexpected. It doesn't freak me out though. I used to feel really weird when people would randomly hold out their hand for a handshake, but I sorta forced myself to do that to people, and now it's second nature.

Keeping in mind that I am only self-diagnosed and grew up decades and decades before there was any Asperger's, but I have wandered through life with very little touching. I used to say (to myself) that I grew up before the touchy-feely generation. My long since x wife and I used to go weeks without touching at all. I used to think of myself as an "untouchable." Later, when years had passed and no one had touched me, I made an appointment at the local gym for a massage... but I backed out, and cancelled. That was 25 years ago.

I don't like being touched when i do not expect it especially by someone i don't know it freaks me out and I get the reaction someone is going to hurt me. Other times it startles me even from someone i know at times but when It is with someone i know and I expect it then i do not mind it especially hugs. 90% of the time i like being touched it is by a girl that I like or know very well just not in a sexual way unless she is my girlfriend, or something of that nature.

I hate it all. Only my best friend and another girl would ever be allowed to touch me. Also the only two people I've ever felt I could touch back. Rest of the world needs to give me my space

I dislike touch pretty much all the time. I can sometimes stand my hubby, but most of the time whenever sometimes touches me I overreact and freak out about it.

Have any of you have had people getting mad at you for telling them not to touch you?

I have been known to pull away right as they try to touch me. I have also run away from hugs. Ducked hugs. Twist away from shoulder pats or rubs.

I have been told by friends I have really hurt quite a few people's feelings.

I like touch as long as they are gentle. Although tickling and massages are out as they are just too painful for me.

I like it as long as it's people who are comfortable with it. If they're not comfortable then they can stay away. Overall I love it when it does happen.

I dislike it very much from people I'm not close to.

I can tolerate it from people I am close to, family or very close friends.

I like it very much from an intimate partner.

But if anyone, even the aforementioned intimate partner, touches me by surprise, I'm likely to jerk away, maybe let out a shout.