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Do aspie males want an NT partner?
Yes 54%  54%  [ 15 ]
No 46%  46%  [ 13 ]
Total votes : 28

Simsam114
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01 Apr 2012, 9:18 am

For me, I don't see it as important at all. I do find Asperger's attractive because I'll have quite a few things in common with those people, and lots to talk about. However, I'd never see it as a requirement for a lover.
Therefore, the poll is hard to answer.

Also, this nonsense I'm hearing about needing a NT partner to "balance out"; having Asperger's doesn't mean one can't be independent, or not be able to balance your flaws. It's a wide spectrum after all.

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only 1 in 200 women are going to be aspie. you would be severely limiting yourself if you took that approach.

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It does seem rare. But, most men have this specific odd thing they're looking for in a woman, some of those things which could be less common than Asperger's. I'm sure a fair share of them eventually find what they're looking for.


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01 Apr 2012, 9:36 am

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It does seem rare. But, most men have this specific odd thing they're looking for in a woman, some of those things which could be less common than Asperger's. I'm sure a fair share of them eventually find what they're looking for.
Exactly. There are a lot of people who are unusual, eccentric, nerdy, etc., and who aren't on the spectrum--but who have so much in common with the spectrum that someone who tends to click best with autistics will also click well with them.


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01 Apr 2012, 5:14 pm

ValentineWiggin wrote:
I don't know how an NT partner, male or female, could "compensate" for Autistic "deficiencies",
but it's certainly easier to find NT partners,
and for the male Aspie, who faces a situation where (diagnosed) female Aspies are few and far between, there may not be any other option.


That's why, I believe, it's in the man's best interest to perceive himself and be perceived by others as normal, without any notion of Aspergers.