What social faux pas did you do today?

Post Reply New Topic

I'm standing at the vending machine and a woman comes up behind me and starts talking with an accent. I figure she must be talking to me, since there's nobody else around... So I give her a nod and smile to pretend I could make out what the heck she was saying. She gives me a funny look... Then I realize she's talking on a cellphone through a headset. Head down, walk away ashamed...

PS If I had a nickel for every time this has happened, I could buy out the whole vending machine.

Hermit here.

But even without seeing people in the flesh, I still make social mistakes just on the internet.

The ones I really feel angry at myself about are the ones that I could have avoided if I'd only thought first. The ones where I can't really see what I did/said wrong even _after_ thinking about it, but at least one other person is clearly offended, somehow don't bother me as much.

scubasteve, if only I had a nickel for every time something close to that has happened to me! I _hate_ the omnipresence of cell phones these days, and I even have one, but only basically for an emergency on the road. I think maybe that's especially prevalent with adult aspies, because we get into the habit of pretending we understand even when we don't, in my case, with my face blindness, pretending I know the person who appears to be talking to me, because I do that anyway, or go around hurting people's feelings.

None today, but yesterday, I think I did something stupid. I was in a Skype call with a friend and a few of her friends and I told her I'd prefer it if I could talk to her in private about something. She refused to and her other friends said it was okay if I said it right there so I finally reluctantly decided to. I told her I'd been getting private messages on a browser game we both played for her conduct towards other players (she's a good person but has an attitude problem). She asked me to tell me the names of the people who sent the messages. I told her I'd rather respect their privacy. Then her friend that had been listening in attacked me and said there was no point to me telling her about people saying things about her if I wouldn't even tell her the names of the people, and how it was just as bad as teasing her. I felt really bad. I just didn't want to talk to people about her without her consent so I wanted her to at least know there were people who were upset about her behavior and I wanted her opinion on it. I wanted to say something but I froze up and then I ended up leaving the call. My friend later apologized on her friend's behalf but says she still agrees with what she said. I have had other people tell me similar as well. They don't want you to tell them about people who are upset with them and ignore it or act as though it's none of their business, despite the fact it involves them and that they are usually in the wrong. Can someone explain the logic behind this for me?

I went out with my baby brothers, so I was too focused and distracted by their cuteness to care whether or not I made an "oops." I'll post again tomorrow; I know I'll have a lot by then.

My social mistakes today:

Stranger passes by, mutters some incomprehensible greeting. Me: *stands there*

I made a rather embarrassing mistake in front of other people where I totally mixed someone up with someone else.

That's one thing I kind of like about where I live. People are usually in a rush and don't have the time to stop and say hi or randomly chit-chat. Makes things less awkward on my end.

Like the majority of repliers here, I stayed in with PJs and have been on my laptop since I woke up; it's almost bed time. Obviously I am still on my laptop. I can't seem to detach myself from it - maybe that's a social faux pas? The fact I ignore all people and remain on the computer all day?
Also, several people have been ignoring me on facebook and I'm starting to wonder if it's because I ask too many questions because that's all I ever do! haha.

Went to celebrate a family member's birthday yesterday. I didn't wish her a happy birthday (those two words are surprisingly hard to say).

I have no idea what "social faux pas" is.