Annoying habits of neurotypical people

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Young people annoy me when they boast about their mates and their lovers on Facebook. Well, first it gets me all jealous, especially when they are these sorts of people:-

--People who you used to know but turned funny with you for some unknown reason (possibly because they were horrible people) but still get other friends and go out and about with them and meet boy/girlfriends at parties who seem to adore them and shower them with gifts, and they take photos of their gifts from their stupid lovers and post it all over Facebook boasting about how much they're loved, and making people like me, who they were horrible to but have forgotten they were horrible to because they're so wrapped up in their pathetic social lives, feel like I'm the worst person in the world because they can be horrible to me but get respect from other people and can be popular so I start to think it was probably my fault why they turned horrible, because these people like them so much.

--People who are possible Aspies or have some sort of other disorder that gets in the way of being able to go out socialising, but they still seem to have friends come from somewhere and they still seem to manage to be able to go out in a crowd of people of their age to bars and places and meet boy/girlfriend there and get on in life, and girls take pictures of themselves all dolled up with glossy hair or boys take pictures of them with their mates at the bar and write on their wall ''oh I'm going out tonight with my mates'' and so on, making me feel like a pathetic idiot always sitting alone in my room, wanting to go out too but at the same time not wanting to because of the crappy social skills I've got. It just makes you feel worse when they've always appeared a bit ''off'' like me, and have had trouble making or keeping friends and been socially awkward or extremely shy but still manage to find a pile of friends and go out to these noisy bars and act like they love it so much that they are contented.

Ohhhh, it bloody irritates me. I much prefer my older friends and relatives, who just post descent, honest pictures of themselves and perhaps their pet or children or house or something else worth looking at, and are just down-to-earth all round. I haven't got time for stupid boastful youngsters in their 20s thinking they're wonderful and making idiots like me feel even worse about myself.

-small talk
-nitpicking
-tastes in TV and movies (absorbed in celebrity drama, etc)
-feelings of superiority due to connections (parents who think they are superior because they are parents are the worst)
-pointing out little flaws about you and teasing you for it (everyday is another day waiting for someone to get on me for being too quiet)
-telling me to smile (a manager got on me for this because I failed to smile to a higher up)
-getting on you because you're not feeling comfortable in a situation (many)
-having people tease and talk about you...RIGHT INFRONT OF YOU!! !!

I work in a place involving old and disable people, and I can't for the life of me understand how the patients can deal with the nurses talking to them like babies without feeling like their dignity is being abolished. Also I can't understand how parents can tease their children when they're trying to learn. I was in a grocery store one time and I saw this one parent talking to another and she had her toddler with her and she was teasing him about how shy he was. I almost lost it and almost wanted to give her a good talking to. That's how irritated I was.

I feel uncomfortable around certain people because I know that they find it awkward which makes me feel awkward but if I'm around certain types of people such as certain friends and my family I'm fine with it. Thinking back in my past relationships, it was weird. My exes and I always went to restaurants and we usually didn't talk while we were eating.

I don't really like being touched by anybody either including boyfriends. I don't mind holding hands and engaging in sexual intimacy but just casual things I'm not really that fond of like sitting down and holding hands or stroking the other person. I hate it when people play with my hair, my mum always comes up behind me and touches my hair, I hate that. I hate people touching my face especially.

Defending people when they are telling them how mad you are at the them (the people the NT is defending), before they even get all the information and assuming you are lying when you are telling the truth.

I have a friend who always defends a person I don't like and she doesn't like her either!

I keep to myself most of the time. I notice though that NTs start in on big winded stories and everyone's suppose to stop what they're doing to listen because the NT story is so hugely important. It also can take so long to tell. There's a distant relative of mine that tells these stories at our house when he visits. I don't hold eye contact and he's all the time nudging me with his hand for me to pay attention. I am paying attention, I just don't look you in the eye. That's so annoying.

Thats kind of odd, because someone telling a story should be able to detect the listeners body language as feedback on their story telling effectiveness, body language allegedly being an 'NT skill'.
I work with three people who go on long monologues and don't shut up..and aren't aware of their listeners discomfort or unwillingness to listen.

I don't understand why some people have to have the telly on so loud. I always say that the louder you have your telly, the louder you'll want it, and soon a reasonable volume will be too quiet for you, and you will be a nuisance for the neighbours or other people living in your home. There is nothing more annoying than hearing a telly murmuring from the next room. But I know I'm not unique to that because I actually know a lot of people who can't stand a murmuring telly from another room.

I also don't understand why some people have to drink tea after tea after tea when they have guests round. I'm not saying this is just what NTs do because some Aspies probably do this aswell, but I don't, and I get annoyed when every time someone comes round, the kettle goes on again, and by the time they are gone there are about 6 cups sitting there waiting to be washed up, and teabags everywhere, and the kitchen is filled with condensation from the steam from too many kettle usage.

- Their need to categorise, label and use stereotypes and criticise you if you don't follow them.
- Can't exist without making A LOT of noise.
- Judge someone within seconds of meeting them.
- Creating a world where being social means you succeed in life, and criticising and holding back not so social people.
- The majority considering things like random casual sex, alcohol, etc is just part of a young person's life.
- That 'white lies' and 'ignorance is bliss' is a good thing when people should know the truth regardless.
- Creating a society where complete idiots are at the top and the intelligent, hard-working, fair people are at the bottom.
- Creating a world where you are constantly under scrutiny and have to answer to people.
- Think it's okay to treat someone like s**t, but don't like it if they get the same kind of treatment.
- Needing to break silence with obvious or really pointless conversation (I usually stay quiet on a car journey, but after a while my dad will mention the weather being bad when I can clearly see with my eyes that it is)

There's lots. I'll be back.

I have just been watching a documentary on Autism on the telly, and a high-functioning Autistic boy experienced some other students laughing at him and taking the piss out of him and calling him offensive names, and it made him feel really hurt and angry, so he threatened to stab them if they don't stop making him feel hurt, and he's the one who got called up to the office and got a bollocking from one of the teachers for saying that to them, and he was like, ''but they were laughing at me and calling me names, so I thought if I threatened them then it should make them think how I must be feeling'', or something like that, and I agree with him 100 percent. Why should NTs get away with picking on an Autistic person and the Autistic person get into trouble for defending himself? It's really not fair. If they hadn't of been laughing and taking the piss out of him in the first place then he wouldn't have verbally threatened them.

Why can't NTs actually stop and think of how an Autistic person might be feeling for once? Why should they get away with belittling an Autistic person? Why can't they just stop and think ''oh if I were an Autistic person, how would I be feeling in this situation?'' But no, they can't do that. Lack of empathy, perhaps....? No wonder Autistics don't show empathy for NTs, and they still have the cheek to call 'lack of empathy' an Autistic trait!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !

I saw that. The Louis Theroux doc? I was angry at the exact same thing you mentioned. He's autistic and has taken s**t all this life... he needs calm understanding through learning about what he did.... not a telling off. The bully needs telling off.

Here's two things that I don't like NTs doing:

1: I'm talking about something emotional and of importance to me, and they are suddenly fascinated by their neighbor's truck going down the road and have to point it out! Gossip and social focus!

2: They ask me what I want when they don't really care. "What do you want to do today?" Well, I want to go to a booksale! And they give me a strange look, act really funny for about a minute, find some reason they can't do it and say "I already had plans." This also goes with not really wanting my opinion. "Hey, Cass, I was thinking about this the other day and I'm not sure what to do about it..." if I take too long to reply they will suddenly say "Yes, thanks for listening, I'll do that."

Scene:I'm watching a movie with several NT's, and the main character is named Steve.

NT 1: Who's that guy, there?

Me: Steve.

NT 1: No, no, who's the actor?

Me: That's not an actor, that's Steve.

NT 2: Uh... Uh.. Oh, I think it's Bob West!

NT 1: You think? Well, who's that lady on the right?

Me: SHUT THE **** UP I'M TRYING TO HEAR THE MOVIE! NO ONE CARES WHO THE ACTORS ARE!

When I was in school, kids in my class (who always took turns picking on me) once got me so angry that I told them all to "drop dead".... I got two weeks of suspension for it. The school administrators claimed I "threatened" the other kids. Yet, whenever I corrected them by saying, "It's not a threat! It's a suggestion!" everyone just laughed at me. Well, that's the "zero tolerance" policy in practice! Clearly it's not zero tolerance for the kids that made me get so angry, of course. Just zero tolerance for me saying something out of anger because I wanted them to stop.

The things that annoys me about some NTs is how they enjoy attacking autistics on account of their special interests. I've learned my lesson to keep hush hush about my special interests in the NT world after the beginning of last September.

Same with wanting to blast music through their headphones. I never understood how someone could sit during lunch (back in school) with their music on so loud that I could clearly make out the lyrics from across the table. Didn't their ears hurt from it? Or at they just so deaf that they actually need it that loud?

I can't stand the way NTs will throw anyone under the bus just to be accepted by other NTs. Some will say they're your friend for years, then one day stab you in the back just because you're in a group where everyone else is making fun of you. They're just too weak to actually stand up and say, "Come on guys, she's my friend. You're being jerks." Honestly, I can't imagine living such a sad existence that I'd back-stab a friend just so that I'm accepted by a larger group. It must be depressing to realize your personality is dependent upon those around you. (Then again, I hear rumors that NTs have times where they literally don't think. I still can't imagine it, but if so... that just makes everything so much sadder.)

I also can't stand their bowing to authority (even though if nobody perceived authority, there would never BE any. But they never seem to realize that!) As well, I hate their constant irrationality. It's especially bad when the two are combined. Irrational authority figures are the worst!... and they're so common in this world. It makes me feel so hopeless at times...