jcohen wrote:
Silvervarg wrote:
Just so we're on the clear (again), what is a cure and what is it supposed to fix?
well let's see so many things. Being more empathetic and being able to deeply feel emotions like normal NT's. Having good social skills and understanding social cues and body language. Bascially this is a world where the majority of people are NT whether you like it or not. Even if you grouped together as aspies you aren't necessarily going to like each other. In fact i've found it harder to like others with aspergers and just find some semi tolerant NT's. Even the semi tolerant NT's though are moving on with their life while people with aspergers i'd say are slower. Maybe i sound pessimistic about this but i don't care having asperger's sucks i really don't understand how anyone could like it. Last time i checked Love and acceptance is a part of the social pyramid, without it, it is very hard to be happy. Having aspergers makes it ridiculously hard to have that much love or acceptance. So tell me why do some of you apsies like being socially ridiculed and helpless to do anything about it?
Better social skills would be nice, I admit. But guess what? Believe it or not, for people on the higher end of the autism spectrum, those
can usually be learned with training and practice, without having to actually alter a person's entire brain chemistry. And I think that trope about Aspies lacking empathy is inaccurate-- I think we all have the capacity for it, but we just don't always know how to articulate it.
Whenever anybody wonders how I could possibly feel so at peace with being an Aspie, or how I could ever conceivably see it as a gift rather than a curse, I talk about my artwork, and my writing, and how I see beauty in banal things all around me that others take for granted. I realize that not all Aspies are artistically inclined, but that's not really my point. The point is, as much as humanity proclaims the wonders of conformity and similarity, if we were all the same, our society would be in
so much more trouble than we already are. It's practically a Darwinian cardinal rule-- diversity is desirable to enable a species to flourish. Our world
needs people with creativity and logic and mathematical abilities and lateral thinking skills and intense interests. More often than not, there is some sort of idiosyncratic compensation for that social isolation we feel-- something at which we excel over the norm, whether we realize it or not. Those eccentric "obsessions" we usually have can very often be channeled toward very productive ends, if only they are nurtured rather than discouraged.
I won't lie-- sometimes I get terribly lonely, and I wish my ability to socialize came with less expenditure of energy. But as I already said, it's something that can be smoothed down with practice-- and I wouldn't dream of sacrificing my weirdness just for the sake of being one of the herd. My weirdness is what gives me my strength. And as for love and acceptance, well-- I realize it can be difficult depending on one's circumstances, but I think the key is finding people who love and accept in spite of and because of the weirdness. They do exist, trust me.