Had an interesting talk with my dad...

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heh. I made that call after I had to call my Uncle back for something even worse...expressing proper gratitude! My uncle helped get me a loan so I can go to AFI for my Master's degree, and he called yesterday to discuss the details. I didn't answer when he called, because I wasn't prepared to talk to anyone. I sat stimming for a while, trying to decide to call him, so once I got that out of the way, I was at least still in 'phone mode' to call my dad. Well, as much as I can be in the mood to talk on the phone.

I'm sorry your father treated you that way. My dad was somewhat violent when he was still a drunk. You'd never know he was the same person now as he was then.

My mom, however, was very physically and mentally abusive, so I understand what you went through. Thankfully I'm not inflicted with a need for my 'blood family' to love or care about me, just as I don't feel compelled to care about someone just because they have the same blood as me. My poor NT sister was very traumatized by the abuse, unfortunately.

Last edited by fragileclover on 09 May 2012, 8:01 pm, edited 1 time in total.

My mom's a textbook narcissist. Isn't it the worst?

Thanks for all the well wishes, everyone.

While I've never been particularly bothered by not having a relationship with my parents, I totally underestimated how positive it might be if I did have those connections. I know that I'll never have a relationship with my mom, and I'm still ok with that, but now this thing with my dad is making me wonder how it could have been different if my mom was, well, not a narcissist.

It's very interesting to read about all of the family connections. It definitely seems like it's something that's just 'there,' and something specific must trigger or activate it.