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Yeah I know what you mean there, I had other crap on top of the AS though.......and you might as well, but either way college didn't work for me either the sensory overload was one thing. But then panic attacks and being too one edge and crap I have ptsd so that makes the sensory issues worse as far as I can tell. First year no one socialized with me...second year some did but some of them turned out being douchbags who just added to my problems and technically I was hanging out with them after dropping out but not having moved out of the dorms yet.

what's better not being socialized with or finding out after a few days you've been used by people who didn't actually give a damn about you? I cannot quite decide. So anyways this probably doesn't help much but I can certainly relate to not being able to make it through college.

I have to agree that college is, by far, the way to go for anyone on the spectrum. OP, you clearly have the smarts, all you need to do is find a way to hack the logistics so you can go to class. Being good with computers by itself can be a ticket out (that's what my Associates is in -- I work as a NetAdmin). Languages by themselves can be a ticket -- esp around NY there would be quite a market for translators.

Look at what you are able to do, and what reasonable accommodations you might need to do what you want to do. Getting credentials for your abilities will only help open doors for you. Use your differently wired brain to your advantage.

And you are NEVER too old to go back to school -- I was 40 when I went back for the Associates.

Stop whining start doing You seem capable of a lot of things. We all go through hard times (well, to me it seems that most, if not all asperger people go through very rough times) things starts happening when you start working with what you have.

Nothing wrong with living with your grandfather, first it is a lot cheaper and you are still young. You describe your lack of social skills, study this site, start small, pratice one thing, then another.
Get formal education, if possible. Try distance learning. I do not know your system but I use University of London international Programme http://www.londoninternational.ac.uk/di ... e-learning.

Im 40 (well strictly speaking 41, still feel 30) and I am starting all over again this year. It is never to late if you have an open mind and the ability to learn.

For me, it seems that I always have to work twice as hard as anbody else - such is life But then again, I am never satisfied with second best, I always do the best that I can.

Helle

amboxer, you're really beat up right now. I'm sorry man, I wish I could tell you it'll all be ok, but I can't.

What are you going to do? Do you have any ideas to try out?

No, I'm not in much better of a situation than you, because I wasted all my time thinking things were hopeless, and not understanding what was wrong with me. I'm actually pretty bad, I'm a complete recluse ... almost a shut-in really ... at the moment. Only working part-time. But now that I understand my problems more, I can start charting a course, even at my age. I'm 39 ... there is still lots of time.

When you're younger you have to watch out for the trap of thinking things are impossible and you can't possibly succeed. Things aren't as difficult as they look sometimes, especially at a young age and before you've acquired additional barriers to employment. It's just panic, like how you think things are too late in just your early 20s.

There were lots of things I never even tried to do, because I just assumed they couldn't be done. Like how I used to think you can't get a job unless you meet all the listed requirements - that's so not true. I've landed jobs with far less than the stated requirements. First Aid certificate? I don't have one, have I still got a chance of landing the job? Sure, that's ok, we just want someone who will commit to taking the course. Stuff like that is common.