An instance of forced socilization.....

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I actually enjoy the greeting part, although the obviously disengaged people throw me off rhythm, maybe I'm mistaken that I creep them out and they are really WPers. I kind of wish people would say their names

Can't say that I like that greeting part much myself. Plus, Church puts me in an awkward dilemma. Since I am sort of emotionally odd, I don't much care for Pentecostal services. However, that is what my family is and so I have a tough time with it ( I have even questioned my faith because of my feelings at times). Now I could go to a different kind of church, but that would involve me going to a place where I don't know anyone and that scares me. Thus, I don't go to church all that often.

I can kinda get past all that.... akwardly, but it's the hugging that some churches are so fond of, that makes me want to run away screaming (shudder).


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It's never interested me. I have never been forced into it either. Only time I was ever forced into something like that was when I got married. I thought I was going to be hiding upstairs away from everyone and being alone but I survived all the touching and hugging and having to take my glasses off for the pictures. I did have one episode there, no two. I had one before it started and then during the party.

I do remember when I was 11, mom and I were leaving my grandparents house to go home and my grandparents had company over. Mom says good bye to them and she tells me to say good bye. I decided to say good bye to each of them literally so I say good bye good bye good bye and mom didn't make a fuss about that until later in the day and she told me I acted like a second grader doing it. How do you say good bye to people? How I say good bye to everyone, I usually go "bye" to everyone all at once than saying it to each person.

But for greetings, I say hi back if people say hi to me. I am not interested as I do it but I do it to be polite. Just say "hi" and get it over with.


People have laughed at how I greet others or when I say bye because I was told to say it. It doesn't bother me.

This was a problem when I was younger and living with my parents. Similar issues when in school during the lunch hour or in the few minutes before class where you're waiting out in the hall.

I'm afraid I have no solution other than avoidance. For me, once I was older and living alone it became easier to stop attending those things in life that require this type of socialization. The whole thing confuses me. I'll never understand it. How can people stand to be in such close quarters with so many people. All that noise, people bumping into you, smells of perfume and cologne and sweat ugh. Can't do it.