I've cracked the body language code, folks!

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And yet there are other, far better ways of dealing with the hostile NT that won't actually wreck the rapport but those far better ways usually aren't even considered, take note.

And again, even if we do consider the "social currency" situation, it really says more about those who will stick up for those who put down good to keep up the appearances, than those who will show the integrity to do the right thing.

I think you and I actually agree on this, in a way we just see it via slightly different perspectives. That's how I view it, anyway.

and either way, it doesn't make the outcome of the scenario any more acceptable. Like I said...it just shows them for who they are; they may not be as bad as the hostile one, but willingly propping up the hostile one to preserve the unity and image doesn't exactly make them look particularly appealing either.

You're absolutely correct.

As I said, I'm not even sure if I am an aspie, but if that behavior is considered neurotypical, then why would I aspire to be that way? What I don't get is why they do act that way.

I find many of my problems don't come from misunderstanding "social rules," but rather finding them appalling.

Based on what I've said here, do you think it's plausible I have Asperger's?

Do you mean why do they act hostile, or why do they prop up those that do over us?

because it certainly makes it appealing to those who are deep down very hostile, or just plain shallow.


And in fact I did touch on that considerably not in my initial post, but one of the following ones....the "shallow" part, and the reason they don't want to get to know us.

At least, from my interpretation, that's what I take it you're asking about anyway.

Right, but what I was saying is these NTs might not actually be that shallow. It's not that they identify with the hostile NT's behavior. Instead, they think, "While I might not approve of the hostile NT's actions toward the aspie, if I put them aside, I actually really like the hostile NT as a person. Though I don't hate the aspie, and I can see his treatment isn't fair, I don't identify with him as much. So, if I'm going to have to take sides, I'll side with the hostile NT. Not that I identify or approve of his hostility, I'm not that way deep down. But on the whole, aside from his hostility toward the aspie, I like that hostile NT better all around. The aspie I can't connect with as much, so why side with the aspie even if I feel he's being mistreated? I don't agree with the mistreatment, but I like the perpetrator better than the victim for other reasons.

At least...I've cracked it for folks like us.

Now, this is something I've dubbed to be used as part of the process of "supercharging your Autism" as I like to call...in other words using it to your full potential, and to work for you, rather than "hindering" you. Also worth noting: I wouldn't recommend doing this to "look cool" to other people; do it solely for your own benefit.

I admit this may not necessarily work as well for low-functioning Autistic folks, but for those of you who are high-functioning, this may prove very beneficial, so I suggest you gather round and take note.

We may not be wired to pick up on various "signals" the way NTs do...but there's something our brains do--and they do it really well--that we can use in a similar way: our brains can pick up on patterns. And as hard as it may be to believe, the whole body language thing--at least from my own experiences dealing with NTs--is nothing really that complex.


I'd also like to add that I didn't crack this code intentionally; in other words, this wasn't something I was actively pursuing doing. This just came from making various mental connections( in that way that we do so well, might I add), and picking up on different patterns here and there, analyzing behavior, and reading up on a lot of human history, and decisions that humans have made since Day 1. Yes folks, I didn't actually stop pursuing the things I love to come to this understanding. I came to it simply by living my life, and working to be the best me I can be. Hopefully you'll pick up on the lesson in that; if not, it's part of the first few tips I've outlined below.

First of all, you have to accept a few things that may be very hard pills to swallow:

1. Despite what you've been told about the majority of people being wonderful, and only a few bad apples really ruining all that...it's a load. Flip it around, and there's the truth.

I came to realize this from several things: my own personal observations, reading over the 48 laws of power, and analyzing human behavior throughout history.

You may be wondering why I even would mention that; simply because I've noticed a very similar behavioral pattern from most people in general, when they don't like me...even if they're trying to hide it. Which brings me to....

2. No matter how hard you try to make them like you, and do everything to impress them, they don't like you.


I told myself a few years back "pretty much everyone hates me...and they will no matter what I do, no matter what"; and no, I didn't tell myself this to put myself down. I told myself this to assure myself there was really no point in trying to impress shallow, superficial people by attempting to half-ass social skills.

And let's face the simple fact that you can put off your favorite special interests to focus on learning social skills...and it's just not something that naturally comes to us; our brains are hard-wired for more important things than pretending that we honestly care, and desperately needing subliminal body cues from people we can't even pick up. Basically, at best we'll look really half-assed at it. So, really the choice is we can either excel at what naturally comes to us, or do a terrible job faking what our brains aren't really programmed for.


I mentioned before about getting a similar vibe from most people in general when I interact with them, and that vibe is all I need to know that they don't like me. It's a simple pattern you pick up after enough time.

Those who do like you will have display a different pattern when you interact with them.

Now, a big pattern I notice from everybody at one point or another is a simple phrase: "oh yeah?" That basically means "they don't care". Whenever I don't care, I never say that cause they subliminally fixated themselves on that term, so I like to use different terminology so they don't pick up that I don't. It's more fun to throw them off after years of them doing so to me

Yes, I have a lot more to offer up than this, but I thought I'd start out with this; if you have any questions, feel free to ask and I'll post more in a bit

The way I see it is this
There is the real world made up of facts.
And there is the illusory social world which is mostly fiction.
I prefer to deal with real life not live in a pretend fantasy world.
Most people prefer the fantasy the NT's exist to create and manipulate their own world.
Aspies prefer fact over fiction and are not interestEd In playing social hierarchy games.