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05 Jul 2012, 8:36 pm

My friend says saying good bye, see ya, bye, later, etc. Gives people the closure they need to know a conversation is over. I've said it too soon THINKING a conversation is over, and I've left awkward silences thinking it's not over but waiting for the other person to respond, then I get "Well... I'm gonna go now, see ya." If I feel comfortable enough with a person (they know me well and know I'm on the spectrum, etc.) I ask if we're done yet. They don't take offense, they understand I don't want to be rude and I'm unsure if the conversation is over.



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06 Jul 2012, 3:37 am

Senath wrote:
ToughDiamond wrote:
MomofThree1975 wrote:
I am NT. Normally, I would turn it into a joke lile "I'm stalking you!" or "We are on the same schdeule today" or something like that. With my co-worker, when we keep running into each other on our way out, it turns into a joke like "I promise, I'm leaving now" or something like that. You don't want to ignore the person and you don't have to say abye again, so it's best to just make a joke of the whole thing.

Hope that helps.


So it is jokes.........it figures. Good way of breaking the tension. I did try "we can't go on meeting like this" once, but it went down like a lead balloon. :? I still think that one should have worked. Too familiar?


Hm... I think that should have worked unless there were some other factors involved. The hard part is that every situation is different and there are different factors that make some comments better than others. For example, if the person was in a bad mood that day or if the person actually thought that maybe you actually were following them for some reason (people make assumptions) then I could see it not going well.


It's always the trouble isn't it......context, the Big Picture. :( I used to just regurgitate any humorous quip I'd heard on TV, regardless of who I was talking to........couldn't see that some people might not have seen the show. I actually thought their friends would bring them up to speed later, and that they'd feel unfashionable and silly for not laughing. After all, it was funny, so it was ony a matter of time before they attained enlightenment and started appreciating me for the comic genius I obviously was. :oops: