Do you care about your body and your looks?

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I have bad psoriasis on my face, it is not exactly something I can control and have tried many times to alleviate it, to no avail and it bothers me when people think I am somehow "ugly" or a glue sniffing drug addict that should be avoided...prejudice is horrible.

I have a weird loping gait where I bounce from one leg to the other...

I have next to no muscles but the beginnings of a belly paunch...

I dont have a very good self view of my image, for the longest time as a kid I would not look in the mirror, way back pretty much as I can remember but now while I still do not like to, I can.

And I have always had a fear of my own legs, it is weird I know but for some reason it is there when I was age 3-8 until I "got over it" though sometimes I still remeber...

Nowadays I do not really care so much, I never have much but I still see people staring on occasion...especially when I open my mouth and a ridiculously slow droning voice comes out of it...

No, I do not care about it at all. I dress in what I feel are comfortable clothes, and I don't pay attention to whether or not I look well-clothed and/or well-groomed. Sorry, with me, it's the content that matters, not the packaging.

I don't think you're sister raising you and your dad being absent has ANYTHING to do with manliness one way or another. Masculinity is defined only by the y-chromosome on microscopic and the dangly bits on macroscopic level. Nothing else.

I was raised by my mother and my grandmother, and all my role models were female. Yes, I've grown up to be fairly 'soft', and in the presence of guys who are more 'macho' types, I am identified as more 'feminine', but this doesn't affect my self-confidence a bit. If they want to live by those stereotypes, I say let them. I know the truth: that, in my reality, it was the women who were the figures of power, and the men who were the cowards who ran away and proved incompetent. That's not because of or in spite of their sex, but related to personality loose from it. Proving, as far as I'm concerned, that the difference between men and women, though existent, is one that is highly exaggerated by society.

For the first part of my life, I tried so very hard to change how I look. I was dog ass ugly in high school but when I hit about 20 I looked great for maybe 10 years. Then I started getting older and not caring as much and all that.

Lately, I have been experimenting with styles and stuff and for the last few days I have been doing my hair, wearing makeup, shaving my legs, etc. I'm even rocking the Snookie do today. I think I go through cycles about it and also sometimes it takes motivation.

I even put on my black eyeliner today.

Hell yes I do. Right now I'm fat because of some medication I'm taking. I definitely ain't high strung on hygiene though.

Yes I do and I am very self conscious and OCD about certain things. However I adhere to my own dress code and style but I give care to it. Not to sound narcissistic but one of my obsessions is my appearance, I'm not full of myself but the contrary. I get really upset if my hair doesn't look the way I want etc etc.

I do care in some way, I just feel better when my skin is clear, my hair washed, I'm shaved and my clothes clean. I also don't like bad smelling things which includes myself if I didn't adhere to personal hygiene.
Also, I really like clothes for the looks but I don't wear them, usually. When I go outside I wear nondescript clothing because attention makes me feel uncomfortable but if it weren't that way I would probably dress quite stylishly. (Well, and the fact that male choice in clothing is somewhat limited contributes to my "jeans and t-shirt" look.)
I like suits, especially the late 19th century style; something like the Sherlock Holmes era. I also like non-ordinary clothes like medieval attire, capes or cloaks, boots and doublets. If I didn't care about people staring, I'd wear something like that from time to time.

And I like make-up, for the artistic aspect, and if it wasn't something that is sure to catch attention I would play around with that more. I just like the colours and sparkles...
Apparently I'm better with eye shadow than most of my female acquaintances. If my psychology career fails I can try to become a make-up artist...

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Also, I have to object to the definition of masculinity above; masculinity and femininity are socioculturally defined terms - at least concerning gender rather than the biological sex - and can vary considerably between social groups. One just needs to compare male or female idols from different cultures like Japanese and American. Every individual, no matter how masculine or feminine, shares aspects of both gender stereotypes. Even when just the biological sex is considered, there are individuals born with neither or both phenotypes who also develop to be masculine or feminine; not to mention people who consider themselves somewhere in between or change gender. Sometimes one wouldn't notice that the woman opposite wasn't born with two x chromosomes, or the man passing you by does not have and never had any "dangling bits".
I don't say it is a necessary - or even good - differentiation but it is a deep rooted one and one that will always exist in some way or another. It just became more flexible in some cultures.

I seem to go through stages of caring and not caring, once every year I go through a stage of being scared of what all the food is doing to me so I stop eating crap food and live on carrots and apples for a month. That makes me feel even worse so then I go back to normal. I have several sets of the same clothes, I wear a big coat in winter cause it's cold, I don't do what some women my age do, and walk around in miniskirts and singlets when there's a gale blowing and it's pouring down with rain.

Make-up? Nope.
This is gross, but oh well, sometimes I can go weeks without showering. I forget, or it just doesn't feel like the right time to, so I don't do it. I was worse when I was a kid, my mum had to drag me into the shower kicking and screaming. Not nice memories which might contribute.

I have long thick hair which I keep in plaits every day, otherwise they just get knotty because I'd rather be doing something else than brushing my hair.

Special interests play a huge role in my sloppiness. I just find it hard to do other things when I am transfixed on something which feels more important.

I don't worry about putting on weight, though I don't snack much anyway.

As for clothing, I only care when it's actually important. In the field of work I chose, we have to dress well, so I have to be more concerned about what I wear.

I try not to look too scary and I definitely have an interest in how I look......I absolutely hate it if somebody posts a photo of me on Facebook without asking........but I'd be horrified if I thought I was taking my vanity too far. I tend to feel suspicious of (or just plain sorry for) anybody who gets too carried away with the looks thing.......I always think they can't have got enough to do. I see it as evidence of narcissism.

I care about my body in that I try to exercise as often as possible, eat well and wash regularly. As far as my appearance goes, I only wear make-up for special occasions as I hate the feel of it on my face. People tell me I should wear it more, but I feel uncomfortable wearing it and I don't see why I should paint my face to be considered beautiful...

My self esteem is tied to how I take care of my hygiene and my body; both inside & out. If I eat poorly, or if I dress sloppy, or if I neglect to be clean & smell clean, I feel bad about myself. If I don't work out, or if I act lazy, I feel bad about myself too, so it all works together that I have a need to maintain myself, and in turn, I feel good about it.

Charles

I don't care that much about what other people think I look like, but I do care what I look like. Idk If that makes sense. I care to look nice, but my definition of nice. My sense of style is a bit different. I tend to over-dress when I go out and under-dress at home. I try to make sure my clothes match and even make sure I match my jewelry to my outfit.

I rarely wear makeup because it is itchy and hard to get off. I won't leave the house unshaven or unwashed. I am over-weight and have acne. I am trying to work on the weight but I have given up on the acne, because I have no cash for a dermatologist. Yes, I have tried OTC stuff and the prescriptions my GP tried were too strong for my sensitive skin. I use conditioner to keep my hair soft and less frizzy. I brush it constantly, but it is too much effort to blow-dry it even tho it looks much nicer when I do.

To the females here who don't like makeup, why don't you?
I don't because
- I don't like the feeling and
- I feel it's a kind of cheating. Like, your face with makeup is not really your face. That's like wearing a mask.

Too expensive, too much trouble, wears off or smears, if lipstick can taste bad, I don't want guys coming on to me, and I'm more interested in looking androgynous and being comfortable than in looking girly or all made up.

I guess I do to an extent. I don't even like going round to the shops in my regular scruffy house attire. I usually don't bother too much about my hair as there is no point, even when I do make an effort it will just go all over the place anyway. Since weight is being mentioned, I'm not too self conscious about that. I'm 12.5 st which is right for my height (6.1), but there is a bit of fat to it as I don't regularly exercise but I have been a lot worse, so I guess that's why it doesn't bother me.

Probably a bit too much, mostly because I'm never quite sure how others perceive me. I'm always worried that the way I'm dressed will stand out, or that my hair looks like I've got yeti-scalp (more of a concern when it's long, obviously). I used to be colossally overweight and now I'm down to a healthier size, but I still worry that I look overweight. I'm also short, which there's not really a whole lot that I can do about