Do you love your relatives?

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I have always felt very detached from my family. They have always supported me (and I assume loved me) but I just haven't felt any strong connection to them. They're just my family. Sometimes I feel a bit guilty about my lack of connection to them as I know that I am probably quite lucky to have a family like mine ... But I can't change the way I am.

I am very attached to some family members but distant towards others. It depends on their personalities and how they treat me on a regular basis.

Ditto except for my mom. She's my only "person". Nobody else really knows me.

I love my relatives because they accept me as I am, even more than my own parents are willing to at times.

Not sure. i dont think i love anyone.

But i like having them around. For me its only because i know its family i think. I dont really have deep connections to anyone.

hmm I say I do but I don't really know.

I often tell people that your family is who you make it and blood is NOT thicker than water.

Same here. I feel a sense of duty and loyalty to my family but love? I honestly don't know.

I have real difficulty with that one. Quite often my mother will tell me she loves me. How am I supposed to respond? I know telling the truth will hurt her but I feel very uncomfortable faking it. I usually end up mumbling something incomprehensible, relying the 'men don't like to show their emotions' stereotype.

it's pretty normal to hate your parents as a teenager.

I actually have a pretty good relationship with everyone in my family...my mom and I went thru a rough patch starting from when I was 11 that ended about when I was 17, and now we're relatively close.

My stepmom started to become sort of distant towards me when I turned 12 and started living with her and my dad full - time. It was almost as if she resented having to provide for me 24/7 and having to "share" my dad with me on a more regular basis. I still don't understand her and she doesn't really seem to understand me - or my father. Oh well - her side of the family seems to have all kinds of issues, so I don't take it personally.

I absolutely ADORE my aunt, tho...if there's anyone other than my dad who totally "gets" me, it's her. She and I both like Disney movies (especially the Cars movies) and I feel like I can talk to her about anything. It's like I don't have to be "afraid" of her, and of what she'll think of me, if that makes sense.

When I get out of college I want to move all my stuff to Minnesota and get a condo in the same building she lives in....maybe even live WITH her, if she's okay with that. I could make part of the payments, contribute towards groceries, stuff like that.

I really don't know if I know how to love as it's commonly understood. And that concerns me greatly because I'm married with children. Sometimes, I feel that I'm just a protector and educator, i.e., I have a job to do and that's it. I'd do anything to protect them. Honestly, I often don't like my wife but I'd never leave her. I've read in many books about AS that that's very common among Aspies. Is that the old, "I love you but I don't like you"? I don't know. My dad says that I very much remind him of my great-uncle (RIP). He was sometimes just downright nasty to my great-aunt, but pity the fool who'd say something negative about her, because he'd be on that person like a pit bull on a steak. He was her defender, but she had to do things his way.

I love my parents and my sister. As for my extended family, I don't love any of them, I like most of them and dislike a few. I very, very strongly dislike one of them.

Yes, that's what I meant in my posts.

I don't know.......love is such a binary concept.

The bonds between me and my relatives have often left much to be desired. But they are bonds, they do exist. I've just been rather distant from them, that's all. I still turn up for the funerals and other important events.

Only my mom (but she's dead now) and my children.

i do not know who my relatives are. i was adopted, and the adoptive parents i loved are gone, and all that is left are my step sisters who never really accepted me as part of the family (augmented by my unfriendliness as a baby), and so i do not really love them much.

i do not think i would have many genetic relatives because my genetic mother and father were killed in an accident and they were only about 17.

whatever be the case, i have no idea who they were.