WP is filling my head with BS

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I don't think I've become worse due to WP. I mean, I did have more intense behaviors/etc. while I was trying to find out if I was autistic. However, I was also going through daily sensory overload to the point of burnout for a few months (November 2010-January 2011), and it took another seven months before I felt like I had started to recover some of what I'd lost due to that. It is hard for me to separate anything I might have started doing because I read about it from things that I started doing because I was constantly overloaded.

Apparently I'm guilty of it too.
I've been told the same thing and as others here have mentioned, there is something to it.
I didn't notice until I was told though but when I was told, I was a little shocked, but I just tried harder to make everyone's life easier.
I like the "pull our socks up" comment.

I used to go to a board devoted to schizoids, for much the same reason I've been coming here. To learn about stuff and exchange notes. I let everything wash over me and try to absorb stuff that only feels *right*. But I don't spend most of my internet time hanging out on "weird people" boards. There becomes a point when the conversations become exercises in self-absorbed navel-gazing. I don't see it here, but I've been places where people play the oneupsmanship game of weirder-than-thou. "I haven't left my parent's basement or changed my underwear in two weeks!" "Oh yeah? It's been a month for me, plus I am sitting in a pool of my own filth!" It gets old. Some people are almost certainly lying. And even if they are telling the truth, hearing such accounts don't help one improve as a person.

These places also become echo chambers. Being validated is good, but sometimes hearing differing opinions and perspectives makes you realize certain things about yourself. I'm pretty sure if I took a random thread topic from this forum and posted it to a "NT" board (let's say, something like "What are your stims?"), there would be people posting about their habits. I think in an echo chamber, you don't see how similar you are to people on the "outside" and it reenforces a feeling of "difference".

I don't know about becoming worse. But I can see how making WP your number one "hang out" place could be not the best thing in the world, especially if you are impressionable.

All of that is what I wanted to say here in response.^

This is a very interesting and timely thread for me.

I am the mother of a 13 yr old AS girl and have come to WP over the past few years to read so I can understand and help her better.
She has only just recently discovered a special interest website (art) that has a social media type of format (messaging, friending, watching, and blog function). After laying down some ground rules for safety because she is very inexperienced and naive (information sharing, etc), she was off and running with it. Anyway, long story short...I have been popping onto her site to check on her and discovered she had put a blog post about wondering if she was crazy or perverted for having alot of sexual thoughts (my description is the short sanitized version). I called her and calmly told her to go delete it immediately, that it was not appropriate for that website because it was an art website and more importantly one of the members she just recently met and will be in 9th grade with her come Sept. and does she really want all her classmates to know her deeply personal feelings!!
So anyway, I thought I'd try to get her involved here where she can anonymously get feedback from others on any topic she wishes. But I am a little afraid of her becoming resistant to my help and over-identifying with her AS – after all she is first HERSELF, a person – not a diagnosis. She is also at a very impressionable stage and I see her sometimes spouting things that she has just heard from someone else – just trying things on for size, I expect.

Anyway, I would hate to see her retreat from trying her best to learn about this very perplexing social world we live in….I’d hate to see her develop the idea AS is WHO SHE IS. But I’d really like her to have a safe venue for connecting with others on issues (as above) that concern her.

Any comments appreciated – I am a thoughtful audience.

After 33 years acting like. an NT (everyone I meet/know (normal would be pushing reality a bit) I'm pretty stuck in my ways but was worried that I'm picking up traits but I'm noticing ones that were already there. I've even lear ed coping stratagies that are better than my old ones. At least here I can ask questions and let out the inner aspie that I can't do so much normally.

People have told me I appear a lot less stressed, for the first time for years I can be 'me' around people and there like me

WP has enabled me to become a better person, by far.
i recommend it highly

This is the only site I can be me ( except for sites relating to my hobbies as a Reef Aquarist, Backyard Astronomer, Roswell & UFO crash info. In other words Special intrests!). I can talk here FINALLY about stuff too weird for NTs or family members.
Feels great! But I can see a parent being alarmed that we express our true selves here. She may not be ready for it. I for one, too not tell family about this site. They can use my facebook page if they so desire.

Sincerely,
Matthew

My Dad keeps asking me about that Facebook job thing I'm doing. I've told him several times it's nothing to do with Facebook and I'm taking a break from it anyway. It goes totally over his head, not a clue. He hears about Facebook on the news, etc and knows it causes problems for some people and thinks I'm at risk of this. I actually think he thinks Facebook is the internet.

To be honest I've found that I use this website way too much and it actually starts getting to my head that I have AS. My psychiatrist told me that I probably have mild AS. Honestly, I think I have more potential than I give myself credit for and I think that when I spend too much time on WP I get it in my head that I'll never be able to do this or that. I don't think this website is bad nor will I stop using it but I'm going to try spending less time on it because I find that I'm more proactive and more confident when I'm not on as much. With that being said, if I have a problem that I think a neurotypical person wont understand I'll be sure to come here. I still plan to come and spend time on Wrong Planet, just not make it my whole life so I obsess so much about AS. I think with college coming up I think I'll not be on the site as often but I'll definitely be by when I feel a need for support and supporting others. Everybody has their moments right? We'll see what happens.