NT's see me as "difficult" and "gay"

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One thing about it, I am certainly NOT NT. I do fit the AS profile. Yeah, I realize homosexuals aren't ALL like the doodah parade, "marriages",becoming "pastors", appearance on shows like tyra banks new model etc... don't help. Heck, some seem decent and normal.

Please... I hope nobody equates this to full all out autistic actions, meltdowns, etc.... I could ALWAYS understand that as far as it being a malady, etc... If I owned a store, where THAT kind of thing was happening, even if it was NT based, I would try to make it less of a nuisance, and try to have the people solve it themselves, etc... before I would even ask them to leave. That definately IS different though. A lot of kids seem to just have a problem with that, and autistic people? Well, sometimes it is because of the situation, and sometimes because of a disconnect in perception, and I really wish I knew the other reason.

I said here before that I am AGAINST the idea of changing stores, just to confuse people. I actually had people tell me that that is why the change store layouts sometimes. To confuse people like me, so we have to look around. The idea is to encourage new buying patterns to incrase business. Frankly, it would work better with ME if they just had a map, and/or maybe a flyer with their catalog on it.

Still, this topic was to help the first poster, not have a discussion about perception of homosexuals, etc... The fact is that many people have the same perception about them as I do, and we ARE right! You can argue till your blue in the face, but seeing thousands upon thousands of examples just proves it, and there can be no dispute.

I won't even tell you how old I was when I first found out that they even existed. I WAS pretty old at the time. STILL, there was almost an inate understanding of what boys shouldn't do or say even as TODDLERS, and perhaps even before. Some words were understood, but just not used. I, for one, didn't even really understand why. It was just inate.

I can't tell you WHY it is like that, but it just is. Heck, my known vocabulary for telling a woman she is pretty is cut in half because of it. Oh well, I can get by. I can still use 1 to 2 word statements to say everything from she is someone I really like, to the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. I don't know why there would be a need to use those words anyway.

Steve

Sometimes I think I should just get a log cabbin in the woods.

With an internet connection.

Maybe a piano and some prostitutes too. Like those girls in the "True" "Naughty or Nice" ads that keep showing up on this site.

Alicorn,

YEAH, don't you HATE that! I bet Alex makes a BUNDLE off that! Maybe THAT is why he has this site. 8-(

It is like the bait and switch car ads. They show you a car that you may NEVER be able to get, etc... 8-(

And yeah, sometimes I think I would have been better off Ahmish. But the small places, rigid lifestyle, shunning any new technology, and religion WOULD get me down. 8-(

Steve

All of the gays I have met are unbelievably social they go way over the top with parties and are anything but introverted.

Sometimes girls will call a guy "gay" if the girl likes the guy but the guy doesn't respond to her flirting.

I think maybe the "gay" label comes about for me because the Normals don't konw what to make of me.

Alicorn,

You're right about that! HEY, straight guys DO have their own likes/dislikes also. If a woman thinks you are homosexual ONLY because you don't react to her, she is an idiot and not worth ANYONES time!

Steve

Don't behave seriously around a woman. Most of them won't admit it, but they're out for a puppy. This doesn't vary.

Griff,

I HAVE seen a LOT of women that almost consider themselves superior, and figure they have the goods men will KILL for and play it for all they can. It IS cute a lot of times! It IS attractive a lot of times, at least when she has something else going fo her. It is almost endearing. But it IS demeaning and can get old pretty fast.

My step mother had an exchange student from denmark that was like that. I heard she actually said she could have any guy on the beach. She might have been right, but she was sent back pretty quick.

Frankly, I KNOW they aren't all at that one extreme, and I hope there are a good number close to the other.

Steve

One of my workmates said that someone wanted to know if I was gay; meaning that I am camp. I am not gay but I can give that guy special treatment if he wants.

Generalizing about women is exactly how you'll wind up being alone forever. Everyone is different.

KIM,

MAYBE some of you are more misunderstood than I am. Because of being LFA, or even being AS and letting others know. MAYBE! Frankly, I am about the most misunderstood person you are likely to meet. For most of my life, I have been an enigma. THAT is why I am here. AS looks like the answer. Still, I don't think I will tell anyone. Hopefully, you weren't talking about me.

If I was married, I would do my best to make the marriage work. I would sacrifice, etc... And HECK, I don't disrespect women at all. BTW I have ALSO never hit anyone, and am not given to violence, so I certainly won't start. Still, what I said IS true of a lot of women. I DID say it wasn't true of all.

HECK, I saw the movie "what women want", and I was almost envious. I would love it if I could, if only for a day, find out what you gals really want. I'm STILL thinking about buying that "feminine mind" book. For the record, I wouldn't even CONSIDER that if it was written by a man.

Steve

Kim, it is helpful to have a general understanding of women. We acknowledge that all women are different, but we need some direction. Generalities have their uses.

Not when they are used to insult and put down. "this doesn't vary" is the most unhealthy type of generality and it has little to do with "understanding".

Then we need a more scientific approach

Just because you understand something doesn't mean you'll like it.

I get called difficult as well as over-sensitive and critical, at times freak pops up.