How often does your family crush you?

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I don't experience this fortunately, because I'm not corrected or criticized all the time when I am not doing anything deserving of correction. Of course, I always manage to annoy someone unintentionally and I get yelled at and then when a person tells me over and over what I did wrong, it becomes more of a struggle to reduce the urge to brutally murder them. Actually, I always take correction or criticism as an insult and become extremely angry about it.

Yes, and they did this today.

It the nail on the head for me. Nearly all the discrimination I get is from my own family and close friends of the family. Lately I've started to care less, as I've started to realize my family and the people they associate it with aren't that, in need of another word, smart and are highly misinformed about many things, including Autism and anything having to do with the brain in general. Every time they try to get me down, I remember all the crazy things they've told me (such as believing in gnomes), I smile to myself, and let their bigotry bounce off of me.

When I was growing up... yes. They did this. I got targeted for outright abuse because of it. But I'm on my own now--however shaky my self-care skills still are--and I think I'd rather be homeless than go back. I've been semi-homeless (i.e., sleeping in a safe place indoors but without a permanent residence), and it was scary not to know where I was going to be able to stay, but... I'd rather do that again than have my family constantly telling me that everything I do is bad, wrong, and unacceptable.

For those of you still living with abusive families, I can only tell you: Hold on. You are stronger than you know, and you can survive this. You are valuable because you are a human being, and no mistake you make and nothing you do can ever make you less valuable. You do not deserve this. Don't hate them; but don't give in, and don't give up hope. There is always hope.

Most of my family crushes/ devastates me at every opportunity. That is to say every time I talk to them or see them. This is why I don't see them or talk to them much at all any more. I can't take it. On family member in particular is very interesting though. She can behave as the most horrid cow ever born. She is particularly mean, nasty, condescending, and spiteful. She will bide her time until she can use the very thing against you that will crush you or cut you to the very core. She knows I had to leave college and am on disability. This disturbs me greatly because I had always been able to work for things I needed before and I would have been thrilled to complete my education. Her favorite type of comeback for something I say that she decides she doesn't like? "Why don't you get a job?" or "Why don't you just go back to school?". The interesting part? She has a degree in speech pathology and special education. She works with children with special needs at a local grade school. Even better?? While she was still in college, she was employed as the personal teacher/helper for a young autistic boy. She went everywhere with him and his family. They even payed to take her to Walt Disney World in Florida with them!! !! She adored this kid and treated him like gold. She even invited him and his family to our family's cook outs. He was in her wedding for heaven's sake!! ! She treats Me like dirt though. It's as if she's sure I couldn't be on the spectrum because I'm not like the young boy. I'm a faker and a liar and a looser who just wants an excuse to have no job and quit school!


Sorry for the rant, this topic just touched a really raw nerve.

I guess the short answer is quite often.