Do people find it necessary to "protect" you?

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All the time..
My friends, classmates, boyfriend.
Parents too.
Its like, stupid. Like if its late and im up, texting with someone, that person goes all annoying telling me how i should be sleeping and. They always ask if i have eaten and am i cold and what not.
And if it comes to alcohol, its worst. Or strangers. "Dont talk to strangers, dont give your number or address to anyone"
mmm.
but it makes me feel safe like. im shy and i can just hide behind someones back if am scared and theyll just be like "oh awww, come here you dont need to be scared am here".

Yeah, I have this problem with my mom a lot, my therapist has even told me she's over-protective of me. Part of me is okay with it because she does a lot of things for me that I don't know how to do or am afraid to try for myself, but part of me is worried that if she doesn't quit it and show me how to handle myself soon, I'll be stuck one day in a situation where she's not around to protect me and I won't know what to do. It's a little scary. I think she's more protective of me than my younger sister because not only am I her socially naive aspie, I'm her firstborn, and her 24-week old preemie too. Not to mention, my 15-year-old sister is the complete opposite of me; socially skilled, extroverted and not bound by worries that come from having an aspie brain that overthinks everything, she would never put up with the kind of over-protection my mother gives me.

I find my friends treat me like this a lot of the time too, in spite of the fact that I'm older than most of them. I was on the debate team in high school, and even though I was older than at least half the other kids on the team, they all saw me as the small, cute socially naive one who needed protecting and treating as if I were much younger than they were. The weird thing is, I didn't mind that either. The only kind of babying I've ever found really annoying has been the embarrassing kind, like my entire elementary school career when I was put on a 504 (basically a modified curriculum) not for AS, which we didn't know I had at the time, but for my difficulties keeping up physically with my peers due to my premature birth. I had "buddies" follow me around to the bus, the lunch room, for fire drills (and I still managed to get lost on one occasion!) and it was just humiliating. Not to mention my second grade field trip to the zoo during which I was struggling to keep up with the other kids so my group's parent volunteer just picked me up and carried me without asking. This sort of humiliating over-protection and compensation lasted until about the eighth grade.