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Alfonso12345
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22 Aug 2012, 10:37 pm

mindmapper wrote:
I certainly do this. I regret and feel ashamed of many things I did, even some small ones that don't matter at all, and everyone but me probably already forgot about them.


I know what you mean. When I remember things like that, sometimes things others have probably forgotten, I remember them for years and every time the memories come back, it is horrible. To make the memories go away, I often have to find a way to distract myself so I don't think about those things anymore, but that's not easy at all.



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22 Aug 2012, 11:33 pm

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I often find my self having a hard time letting go of regret and forgiving my self when I make mistakes. For example when I was single and went on a date and felt like i messed it up, or when i would go on an interview for that dream job and messed it up, or make any other kinds of mistakes that cause something that would benefit my life to not happen, i get really upset and almost never forgive myself for making the error. I often find myself replaying the act of error in my head and what could have happened if it didn't happen in my head over and over again to the point where I make my self misrible. I'm aware that it's not a healthy way to look at mistakes but i find it hard to not think about it that way sometimes. Do you do that too? Do you think that's part of an AS trait? what are some ways to help let go of regret?


This sounds exactly like me. I'm horrible at getting over regrets and failures. If I do something that I end up regretting, I'll beat myself up over it for a long time. I know that it's a terrible habit, but I can't seem to break it. Maybe holding on to regrets is an AS thing. It could just be my personality as well because I'm a very competitive person. I guess I'll never know for sure.



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22 Aug 2012, 11:53 pm

Yeah definitely know that feeling, have a couple of things i would rather have avoided. If only you could quickload and get another shot just like in videogames. Tobad in life there is very rarely a second chance.



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28 Aug 2012, 3:38 am

I have no problem letting go of regret... I can't think of many things in my life i regret at all. Yeah, at the time i can be unhappy at some action i took, just it's such a nasty consuming way of living your life. Once things are over, they're just over and i force myself to put it out of my mind... Mostly just by concentrating on something new i think... If im busy with something new i aint got time to worry about past mistakes..