Do you feel angry or sorry for yourself about having an ASD?

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I get frustrated more than anything. I'm pretty intelligent, but horrible at self expression. I can grasp some concepts instantly, and other times I have to mull the simplest idea over and over because I'm just not getting it. It's like being a walking oxymoron.

How much resentment do you hold towards being different and probably having to walk a more difficult and personal path in life?

Not much. I am lucky to have a supportive husband and family. I struggled more as a kid and teen due to lack of understanding. Now I am an adult and things got a lot better when I left high school. I ran into some road blocks as an adult but got through them. I even hated being different as a child because of how I was treated and once we moved, I was left alone most of the time so I was happier and didn't feel so different anymore. Even adults leave me alone and so does my boss. I also don't talk to people if they are not nice to me and I don't talk much to anyone. I rarely do now. I like it like that. Maybe if I wanted to socialize and have friends, I would be struggling like I had in the past.

Do you worry that you might be using ASD as a convenient excuse to accept a victim's status in life and shortchanging yourself in the process?

Sometimes.

How exactly do you feel about having an ASD and being different?


I sometimes wonder if I actually have it. I know I have something. I just live with it. I also wonder if I truly have OCD and ADD. I even wonder if I am just lazy sometimes and bitchy than have problems and if I was just a brat growing up. But I don't let myself obsess over this stuff too much or I will drive myself crazy.

I often feel sorry for myself because of the way others react to my Autistic traits, but never because of the ASD itself.

How much resentment do you hold towards being different and probably having to walk a more difficult and personal path in life?
A lot, and all the time. I hate it, and seeing other people around me being more able to make friends and cope well with mundane things is just enough to make me weep.

Do you worry that you might be using ASD as a convenient excuse to accept a victim's status in life and shortchanging yourself in the process?
Not sure.

How exactly do you feel about having an ASD and being different?
I feel terrible. I feel it's all my fault I'm born like this, even though rationally it's not or shouldn't be. I feel every physical pain my mum has ever suffered with is caused by the stress I have caused her since the day I started school (which was the day all my AS symptoms came out all at once, I was quite a typical child before the age of 4 and a half, so I suppose nobody expected me to suddenly not handle school, which was why my mum became more emotionally weak from the unexpected shock of it). From that day onwards, I have secretly felt guilty and ashamed of myself for worrying everybody like that, even though I was only 4 years old at the time and so wasn't old enough to realise what I was doing, but I still feel ashamed and angry with myself. If I could turn the clocks back and know what I know now, I would love nothing more to be like other children on the first day of school.

I hate being the one with an ASD. I hate it.

Only thing I feel sorry about is being such a failure for my mother. Yeah its hard to have aspergers and I hate that. But it must be harder to have only one child child who is failure handicapped. I kinda wish I could redo life and atleast accomplish something but that only happens in movies. No second chances in life sadly.

Not at all. I don't like my poor motor skills, but aside from that I am happy with my Aspergers-based differences. My ADHD, on the other hand, I would be rid of in a heartbeat if it were possible.

At 52 I've just discovered I have ASD, yet to be diagnosed.

I feel a lot of my life was an (trying not to swear) absolute misery with a few small joyous spots. My two daughters and wife.
Once positivley diagnosed I feel I'll be able to shed a skin, show my true self, not what I've learned to be and move on.

I'm sad it took me so long to find out why I'm a square peg in a round hole. Two thirds of my life
Relieved to be able to move forward knowing why I'm a square peg and knowing the rest of my life will be better.

How exactly do you feel about having an ASD and being different?

Mixed thoughts on this one. I picked BrokenBill as a username but now I'm not sure it fits.
Being logical I see the problem caused by a part of the brain that didn't develop like the majority of other peoples brains. Thats a negative as the majority of people I have to deal with are N.T.'s
I've had to learn more than them to function in our jobs at the same level. I see that as being smarter than the average N.T.
Struggling with this question being so new to AS.
I feel I bit like a shark in a dolphin pod. I travel and eat with them. I only see under the water, they see above sometimes but can't go there. They have to surface to breath, I don't need to. So I can see more things under the water. I'm shunned by them. But if forced I can eat one of them.

Might revisit this one