I totally appreciate your story. Being smart can be a bit of a curse if you have learning disabilities.
In school I was much the same in reading, French (I would tattle on the other kids because they were supposed to be speaking in french and weren't. It never occurred to me that they might not have had as an extensive vocabulary as I did). I was an expert on any subject we read, and I was pretty good at math and other things as well. Although, for math, I could never do the work - I'd just spout out an answer and couldn't explain how I got it.
My mom was noticing a lot of problems, and went to the school about it. They told her yes, something is wrong, we notice it to. She probably just has to apply herself more. But she's smart, they said, Gifted, maybe, so why label her? She'll get by.
Back then Asperger's wasn't a diagnosis yet.
At school the kids made my life difficult and I begged mom everyday to change me to my brother's school so at least /one/ person would be looking out for me. But she said that it's rough to switch at such and such year, because of the whole friends thing. She couldn't get it through her head. I didn't HAVE any friends to loose. Except one year I had a couple kids that let me push them on the tire, then they hit grade 2 and I was lost to them :p
In grade 5 they implemented a gifted and talented program. I remember being quitee jelous of the kids selected for it. I knew more about what they were learning than they did. But, I wasn't selected because I had the handwriting of a grade 1, and couldn't show my work, or other reasons like that.
Great, so I can't get help because I was smart/gifted, right? But I also can't take part in "Enrichment"? It was very strange.
Finally in grade 6 after coming home crying all the time, absolutely misrable mom switched me to another school. They didn't worry about if I was gifted, or talented, they just taught me and worked on my weakness and tried to address them. They worked pretty good. I did get labeled top girl in math by the end of the year, and one of the top readers, but luckily they didn't extrapolate that I should be good at everything
High school was a bit difficult because "work" became critical for math, and such, and I met another person I hung out all the time, who is getting checked out right now for being Aspie as well
Still, I'm kinda of curious, back in the day when "Dyslexia" was pretty much the main learning disability, did anyone get diagnosed as this? Did it help at all with services and such?