Do people ever think you're mentally ret*d and/or gay bec

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What the hell does this even mean?

I've never seen 'being ret*d' and 'being gay' being associated like this before.

My own husband asked me if I was a lesbian...although to be fair, I consider myself mostly straight, but with bisexual tendencies.

Oh, the other - yes, sometimes. I am not sure how frequently.

Both of these, almost all my life. Of course, growing up, anyone who stood out was accused of being gay, because the concept was simply too alien for the general HS herd mentality. ret*d because I do have a few difficulties with a couple of things others find easy. Also, because my voice is a bit slow/monotone for many...

Sincerely,
Matthew

They're not related. They're just two possible explanations people might use for why a person is different.

I don't think I've ever had someone call me a ret*d or anything like that. I've been considered strange/weird by people though, but I consider myself different anyway so I can't say that it bothers me much.

Many times the r-word and was misdiagnosed as such. Never called gay though.

I have quirky habits/mannerisms that lead some to think I am either brain-damaged or "mentally challenged." The gay thing only came as a result of me being one of the few people in my high school that was not sexually active.

A couple of people asked me if I was gay. I guess they thought that because I rarely show any interest in girls and that I've never really had a girlfriend.
I'm just not interested in romantic relationships.

Girls asked me in high school if I was a lesbian.

Mostly, people thought I was the r-word, but not gay. If anything, having shoulder length hair and sometimes wearing minimal makeup with jeans, sometimes people call me "sir" but that's it really. Being mistaken for a guy was more common when I had a pixie type of haircut, so I know I will never get my hair cut that short again.

Still, being thought of as the r-word was far more common, and it didn't help that I went to preschool at a school for children with developmental disabilities, and not being diagnosed with Asperger's until I was an adult. I even volunteered at that school one summer in college, but I was treated as if they thought I had a low IQ, so I never volunteered again after that summer. I know that when I went to one of the founder's memorial service there a couple of years ago, I shocked those people by saying that I drove myself there.

On second thought I sounded more like William S. Burroughs, but the point obviously stands.

I'm not really sure, because my ability to communicate is always fluctuating. Some days I talk like a two year old, other days a politician and yet other days like a professor.
And also, men and women tend to view me differently. When I'm at my worst, communication wise, men think I'm "cute" and fun to tease, and women think I'm annoying and stupid.
When I talk like a politician (meaning with an eye towards manipulation and fitting in) everyone likes me.
Professor mode, men either think I'm cute or creepy, and girls think I'm either fun or uppity.
Its just weird....

Not a lot of people know what Retardation really is. They assume it means stupid, but they act like it's one's choice to be stupid.

I usually just use a lot of large words to confuse their tiny brains. I guess living in an idiot nation isn't so bad after all...

Once when I was in college two girls thougth I was a lesbian and expressed their disgust. I was outside the gym watching an exercise class. I was trying to decide if I thought I could keep up, trying to decide if I liked their outfits, if I had something I could wear, etc. and they came up and started making comments. I was upset because I didn't think I was gay and wanted them to understand but they had no interest. It confused and bothered me for a while and I wondered if I was a lesbian. Nope, just Autistic, with tunnel vision and a late bloomer.

I've been thought to be asexual...