Socialising = exhaustion.

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I can go weeks without saying more than a handful of words. maybe I should try to pretend to be mute next time I travel somewhere

yes I find it totally exhausting.

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Every time I would go to a party, a dance, or whatever, I hated being there and the same thing would happen to me. I wouldn't talk to anyone except my really close friends or my girlfriend and totally ignore my parents, who would usually ground me for not answering them. If that wasn't bad enough, sometimes my tics would go out of control and I would go to the bathroom or leave the room just to release them.
I didn't go to a lot of dances in high school or college, but they still have the same effect sometimes.

I have sometimes wondered if I could learn a second language and pretend to be a foreigner in my own country.

I also find it exhausting. I've been forcing myself to socialize and make small talk with family members over the past few days. The thing that makes it even more strenuous on my system is that my mum feels that she's connecting to me by talking like a Valley Girl when she's doing the complete opposite. If I was my mum and she was my daughter and she had the issues that I have, I wouldn't be talking to her like a Valley Girl, and I'd ask her if there was anything about her special interests that she wanted to talk about. I'd also let her listen to The Kinks on YouTube as much as she needs to. It's not that way and I have to bear the proverbial beatings. I wish I could be on my laptop for most of the time. I will today. There's no doubt about that. Time together for me isn't small talk and Valley talk. To me, it's card or dice games and cans of diet pop and some socializing.

I don't find the socialization itself to be exhausting but I do find it extremely tiring afterwards when I have to remember to call people back and make plans. When I'm already there talking with someone I'm fine but managing friendships is so tiring I don't even do it. I'll socialize with someone for 30-90 minutes and then I'll never call the person back or see him/her again because I just don't have the energy to dial the phone. If I see someone every day and I don't need to organize anything it's no problem and it's not tiring but if I have to make an effort to keep in touch it's too exhausting and I don't do it.

I find socializing to be exhausting and need to rest afterward. Even when my friend comes to visit once a year I need to rest after going out with her, like stay home a day if I'm out with her all day. I got her to understand that. Sometimes I push myself though and go out more often because it's only a week or so out of the year.

I can't wait until all my medical treatments are over and I can go back to not leaving the house or talking to people for weeks at a time.

I do find it knackering, and in similar doses and feelings to putting in shifts at work, except obviously socialising can be much more recreational than that. Generally after two hours much novelty has worn off and after three I start watching the clock a bit. After a number of straight days I'll start longing for resuming solo life and having myself as company, and will be much less inclined to do owt else until the next week.

I think it somewhat beats a week on my own though. Towards the end of that I may feel very bored, needy, stultified, dull and often regret it looking back thereafter. As much as I spread social time out, many of my fondest memories are in company and I definitely get few at a computer screen.

It is wipe out for me.

I'd rather stay in and study as contrary to what people think I should feel I actually find the studying relaxing and re-energising but socialising stressful and tiring. People always think it should be the other way around and tell me to stop working (studying) and relax and have some fun (socialise). Ummm the socialising is the work whilst the study is my way of having fun.

I wish I could just sleep after socializing. I too find it exhausting in that it makes me out of breath and irritable.

I know how you feel. Socializing makes me so tired. Naps are absolutely essential.

I agree, same here.

This is something that has always bothered me. I too become tired and lethargic after social interaction, sometimes after only an hour or two.

Just the other night I went to a party with some friends, something I'm not usually up for but there was some good bands playing so I decided to go. There was a cool group of people there. Kind, artistic, & open minded individuals. I managed to be rather open and talkative that night, compared to how quiet & closed I am most of the time. I really wanted to stay as I was enjoying my self, but after 3 hours or so I was starting to feel out of it, feeling sleepy and not all that social/talkative....I just wanted to go home, get some rest and be in a quiet place.



Sometimes caffeine helps, but then I feel scattered and "on edge" sometimes. Yerba mate' is nice and not so jittery. The few times I have taken adderall (I'm not prescribed) I notice it helps me a lot with feeling exhausted from socializing, along with many other issues I have. Not something I would want to take on the daily, but very useful for certain situations.

I feel like this after socialising. It's a kind of emotional exhaustion that makes you physically exhausted too. I believe it comes from the constant state of alertness in having to analyse constantly what you are supposed to do and say next all the time. Also, the sensory side can make you feel exhausted, as happened to me not so long ago in a library (supposedly a quiet place) where there were screaming babies, an unanswered phone and babble of people talking etc. I felt like collapsing after a few minutes of it. Socialising can bring lots of noise too. Basically the problem with both things is that your brain can't rest.

I don't need to sleep after I socialize, but I find it exhausting, too. I even get exhausted after people come to my house, even if they're relatives or friends. I usually need to pass some time alone after that, or I can even have a meltdown.

That's a good word to describe socializing.