Are there Aspies that CAN read body language?

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I haven't gotten a formal diagnosis yet, but I can read some/most body language.

It takes a conscious effort for someone on the spectrum to read body language, I have found it is easier to read someone else whom is on the spectrum though.

Another thing I've noticed is you can sometimes listen to a person's tone of voice.

I can read people's body language to an extent, I'd be lieing if I told you it is easy, but it can be done.

I've learnt to read body language over time...being female, there sort of is a 'social pressure' that exists, and because I've always observed social situations rather than actually participate, I'm somewhat 'ok' at it; though, I'm not 'perfect at it for instance, I can't always tell whether someone wants to talk to me or is getting bored of a conversation.

I am pretty good at reading faces, but reading body language is a confusing area for me. I am not sure at all if I am reading body language correctly. I know the basics if someone is crossing their arms they are either cold or being defensive. I am just starting to learn how important body language is in reading someone's communication clearly. I know I can read the basic facial expressions and basic body language, it is the more detailed and complex body language I do not read. It is frustrating to me because I do not know exactly what body language I am misreading or misinterpreting or not even interpreting at all. Hmmm....

I suppose in the white collar culture of cut throat businessmen I imagine they play games and it would seem in this profession reading body language is a must.

Typical conversation with my wife following a social event:

Wife: "Did you notice all that tension between [person x] and [person y] today?"
Me: "Erm, well, no. Not really."
Wife: "Seriously?"
Me: "Didn't notice anything."

Like others have stated, if it is something overt and textbook like someone covering their mouth and leaning in (to listen to someone), I get it, but I think I must miss a lot of the subtle stuff.

Yes there definitely are...there's an ASD support group at my school and maybe half the people in it don't have a problem with body language and facial expression interpretation.

I keep thinking that I don't have problems with this......but then I get into trouble for not recognizing a particular non-verbal cue or not interpreting one correctly. Sometimes I get them right...it's kind of hit or miss for me........

Yes, but absolutely not naturally.

Only after reading through many, many books and videos on it, and training my eyes to recognize what is in front of me, did things start working, at least a little.

But, it's ALL what I educated myself on. If there's something that's not been in the materials I've found, that neurotypicals "get," then I can't. Also, it's worth mentioning that I'm not done reading and I haven't trained my mind enough to always catch things, so it's only partial, at this point.

It's much like training yourself how to spot birds. I know that's not the best description, but I really can't think of a better analogy.

And, it's not something automatic. It never will be. If I don't remind myself to "tune in", then everything's blank and I'm 100% oblivious as I naturally am.

But, I do honestly think aspies CAN learn it. Had I been told I wasn't getting body language and was given the books I've read when I was 7 years old, I could have learned it. It's just a matter of education, which is why I really think we need to build a "toolkit" or an "Aspie's Owner's Manual" to give to kids when they're young. We're all bright enough to be able to learn it, if we know what to look for and train ourselves to "catch" things, over time.

Thank you all for your replies.

Yeah, I'm one of them. I can read body language by instinct. I even remember moments when I was a child when being able to read how someone was feeling by their body language. I can also read tone of voice and facial expressions aswell.

But if I was to sit at a screen doing some ''body language/facial expressions/voice tone'' test, I bet you I will get a 0. I just find it hard to test my instinct. It's like when I last asked an NT how she makes friends, and she looked at me and said, ''uh...I couldn't really tell you off-hand....it just comes naturally, it just happens...''

Yes and no. I can read bits and pieces so to speak. Body language and some gestures but I am not able to read facial expressions naturally. Tone of voice and eye contact messages are a problem for me. I found out at age 28 people use body language to connect and relate to each other. I also had no idea the eyes were "the windows to the soul" as people communicate by reading peoples eyes.

Being a female most women use a lot of subtle body language and it confusees me and I will not read most of the signs and secrets. It's a secret language I don't understand. Most communication is over 90% non-verbal communication and Aspies only understand less than 10%.
People use facial expressions, gestures, eye contact messages and tone of voice to communicate I read a lot of items on body language on the internet. I have picked up a few cues in regards to body language but since it is not instinctive for me to read it I feel so far behind in regards to other people.

also, yes and no.
i cannot read the 'actual' body-language, but i have learned several skills that allow me to get the same meaning; albeit a bit slower.
that way, it appears that i do read bodylanguage, which then makes it harder for others to believe me if i am in a situation where my training fails me.

Exactly where in the diagnostic criterias does it say that it is mandatory for Aspies to not be able to read body language?

I can read people if I'm paying close attention. I don't know if any of it was ever intuitive. I do know that some of what I know came from connecting their expressions to their behaviors.

I've been diagnosed with ASD.

As a kid I was alright at reading others body language but on the other hand I was also a dunce at reading it. I was gullible often as well, I think since I couldn't realise others intentions.

Then I read every body language book under the sun and also pick up artist manuals, and it opened up a whole new world for me. In uni hot girls in my class I would talk to would comment that I never look at them.

Now I am better than NTs at reading others body language and intentions. And it has made everything WORSE!! Now I happen to notice every little movement and gesture in their whole body and I lose track of what is being said and as I try to look at their eyes everything becomes awkward and stupid!! !! Knowing what their body language means and what is expected in social interactions has made everything FAR FAR WORSE!! Since I can't respond fluidly and properly I'm always off, more than before because reading body language takes a huge chunk of executive function operations.

STAY AWAY FROM LEARNING BODY LANGUAGE IS MY ADVICE unless you have a powerful executive function