Anyone else hug "incorrectly"?

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Being hospitalized as a preteen was a crash course in things like hugging and eye contact. Not that I'm any better at hugging (I tend to 'huddle' more than hug) but it got me used to accepting them and the expectation that I'm supposed to return them

My grandma kind of dislikes and points out when I hug with one arm. I dislike getting hugged usually but sometimes am ok with it. One time a girl hugged me and it strongly annoyed me. Sometime when my mom hugs me I pull away a little. Sometimes I'm completely fine with hugs though. Sometimes I hug strangely and sometimes it's natural.

I dont hug people. and they most certainly better not try and hug me. thats just invasion of my private little aura

I think some might say I hug in an out of the ordinary way. It all depends on how well I know the person though. I absolutely hate being touched but like with family I hug but my arms are not wrapped real tight and its always a quick hug. I do everything possible to avoid being hugged but there is always family or the person who you dont know nor do you want to hug but this person is very intent on hugging you, I would tell the person to stop but it feels like it would feel weird to say hey dude! Dont you even, Dont you even come over here and give me a hug.

As time has gone by I have become more comfortable touch. From the few relationships I’ve had and the intimate moments has made me much more comfortable with touch. If you come up on me blindly and touch my shoulder I would probably jump but other than that I think Im reasonably comfortable being touched.

I do the back pat too, but not just with other males. I do it with anyone who is either a male or just a friend(some of my girlfriend's friends, who I also consider my friends like to hug both me and her). I usually go for a handshake with males, but every now and then one surprises me with a hug. I just go with it and give them a back pat.

How I hug varies, as far as where I put my hands. There's no system I follow or anything, but now that I think about it, with friends, I do the over/under thing too(I'm assuming you mean one arm goes under the other person's arm, and the other goes over the other person's other arm). With my girlfriend, both arms are usually either over or under. There seems to be no rhyme or reason to which one I use or when. It just happens.

But I have been told by my girlfriend that I hug too hard sometimes. Apparently I can't gauge my strength very well either.

Up until I was 15 or so I thought hugging could be a one-way transaction (i.e. you could be hugged and that was it), so whenever someone hugged me I would just keep my arms at my sides. I only realised this was wrong when there was a trend of hugging in my high school and somehow it became a bit of a joke to hug me (presumably because I just stood there looking vaguely bewildered). It was a couple of months before I actually 'got the joke' and worked out you're supposed to hug people back.

Yeah I know, the heads usually go to the right of eachother, a few times I wasn't sure and I would want to swing my head in the same direction they were going..OOPS!! LOL

I simply do not hug people. If they forcefully hug me, I tend to have an awkward expression on my face and pull away with as much force as necessary to break free. Of course, people are offended when you do such (I want to see the manual that contains the rule which states that every human must enjoy giving and receiving hugs).

If by "wrong", you mean awkward then YES!

In the mood I'm in right now if somebody told me that I'd jump on 'em and wrap my legs around 'em.

I'm sure I hug wrong.. I never know how long to hug so generally wait for the other person to release first. It must be creepy

I've been in the Unitarian Universalist church since I started high school. They're very huggy people. I've been trained well.

I actually really like hugs....I think my problem mostly lies in deciding when people want to be hugged upon meeting me and when they'd prefer to simply shake hands and wave.

Hate hugging anyone apart from my wife really - Just feels so awkward and forced and, rather than find it enjoyable, I am just stressed out. I dread family events for this exact reason. Much prefer to just shout 'bye', give a general wave and leave - what is so wrong with that?

I had to learn to hug my kids.
It still feels very akward