What do people NOT understand about you the most?

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My sense of humour; that I like to be alone sometimes; that I just don't like parties and lots of socializing, but mostly why some simple things (like making a phone call) are so difficult to me and cause that much anxiety.

My anti-social tendencies or perceived anti-social tendencies. I can hold a really good 1 to 1 conversation with someone but I don't know how to make spontaneous small talk with groups of people. I appear to close myself off and not really say hi much. Its perceived as rude. Its taken my own psych quite a bit of explaining how I dont know how to act spontaneously. People think Im overly shy and nervous a lot of the time. And well i am but wouldn't most people get overly shy and nervous after spending there entire lifetimes not knowing how to interact spontaneously and being aware and jealous of this innate NT ability?

Probably that just because they think we are friends doesn't necessarily mean we really are.

Isn't friendship supposed to be a two way thing?

My need to live my life alone.

That there are some things that I legitimately CANNOT do, do not feel comfortable doing, and never WILL feel completely comfortable doing because of my anxiety.

"Why did you make funny faces at me?"


-Actual conversation between my cousin and her friend-
Friend: Is he mad at me?
Cousin: No, he always looks like that.


"Oh, come on. It's not that bad."


My mom: I'm worried. But you, you just don't care. You don't care about anything.


-Actual "conversation" in my sophomore year of high school-
Classmate A: Hey, do you talk?
Me: Yes.
Classmate A: Whoa! He talked!
Classmate B: He actually talked!?

Several times, people thought I didn't like them right after I met them, which in most cases, was not at all true. I guess they thought that because it takes me a long time to get comfortable around new people. Until I get used to them, I barely talk to them at all. Even with the people I do really like, I'm not very talkative

That forcing me into social situations won't help me grow over my inability to deal with them, and will instead just cause me to completely shut down afterwards.

The cruelest aspect of Asperger's, for me, is people think I want to be alone.

If I'm making facial expressions while eating, please ignore them. I'm just trying to focus on getting the food in.

I often do genuinely WANT to be alone. But not 24/7. I want to socialize some, but not nearly as much as most people. It would probably be hell for me if I had zero friends, but I'd be very happy with just ONE very good friend, whether or not "girl" is tacked onto the beginning of the word "friend."

I actually find it more annoying when people assume I'd enjoy a party full of 100+ decibel music and 90+ degree temperatures from the sheer biomass crammed into a small space! There is an upcoming party at my school, which I will show up early to so I can actually TALK TO SOME PEOPLE before it gets too crowded and loud for any kind of meaningful conversation!

I second that one. I got an exam back for a course and got 100%. I proceeded to tell everyone how easy it was and how disappointed I would have been with anything less. Of course, I never realized how anyone could take that as insulting them as I was just speaking my honest opinion.

I appear to be an a***hole who hates you.

They don't get that I'm not constantly thinking "I hope I don't mess up in this social situation!". They don't understand that I sometimes just feel aloof and hyper focused and anxious and that I can't just "relax and stop worrying". MAYBE I'm worrying about what other people think subconsciously or something, but I somehow don't think this is what they think I'm doing. Social things are so easy for most everyone else, so I'm sure they haven't experienced the same thing.

They don't seem to get it that hating racism does not make a person racist.

People don't understand my emotional state, unless I spell it out, with bells on, by which time my emotions will have come to the surface and I'll go over the top. I appear to be stuck with my emotions inside, overwhelming, as they are, at times. So, everyone seems to think I don't have a care in the world and have no reason to have any worries either. Strangely, I'm always aware of everyone else's emotional state (just don't know why they're feeling like that).