Aspies and gender

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Biologically female.

However, I don't have a "gender."

yes.

male and mainly masculine. But where to put the cross?

I picked "I am male and neither/both masculine/feminine". I feel more gender-neutral than most of my male peers. It was a bit embarrassing to me for decades of my life. I'm happy to know that there are others like me and the reason which is probably tied to having an ASD.

I lack many of the vibes males usually have. I'm not interested in showing off, flirting, giving off dominance vibes, etc. I don't like team sports either (was extremely clumsy at soccer). I like cooking and baking. On the other hand, I don't like cleaning and I like cars.

me too

I'm female, definitely not feminine but not masculine either. These days I've pretty much stopped worrying about gender overall. Doesn't seem very important. I am so unique in so many ways that I hardly think my being neither feminine nor masculine is going to be a point of much interest to anyone.

ditto

Isn't the categorization of 'masculinity' and 'femininity' part of the gender binary?

I apologize about my strong response. I had someone on me about gender topics over the past few days. I'm ready to move on, though.

It's a description of behaviors that are typically associated with particular genders. It's hard to talk about gender without referencing the gender binary, but it is possible to talk about it in ways that do not ask that people simultaneously put themselves into and remove themselves from said binary (at least, for those of us who consider ourselves outside the binary).

The gender binary assumes you are limiting it to masculine and feminine. And specifically masculine males and feminine females. And specifically cis-gendered people even.

Verdandi specifically included "both", "neither", and "other". Having only listed masculinity and femininity without the other options would be playing into the binary, but you don't have to avoid those words at all.

Masculine cis-males exist, as to feminine cis-females. Saying the gender binary makes no sense does not deny this fact. Saying the gender binary makes no sense says that its not just disconnected and opposite masculine and feminine. It's more complicated. Not that masculine and feminine don't exist.

I personally, don't understand the idea of masculine or feminine really, but you don't need to deny them in order to be saying no to the idea of the gender binary.

I am female and don't understand the idea of certain behaviours, attitudes, ways of thinking, and so forth being either "masculine" or "feminine".

My issue with masculinity and femininity is that these are completely arbitrary. It really doesn't make any sense that some activities are considered inherently "masculine" and then thus inextricably linked to men and boys, and that some activities are considered inherently "feminine" and then thus inextricably linked to women and girls. These are human behaviors that exist in a large number of people regardless of gender, but are still used to create these false constructs of what it means to be a man or a woman, and those who don't fit this prescriptive system suffer for it.

I once wrote a song about an old man who got a sex change operation to become a cougar for the young man that he was deeply in love with. It is called "Gender Wise" set to the tune of "Edelweiss".

My understanding of it is that the traits of masculinity and femininity, as not the same thing as gender roles. I don't understand either of them though.

My understanding of it as there are traits of a person that are masculine or feminine, not activities that are masculine or feminine, and not made that way because of stereotypes. Also, people are expected to have both masculine and feminine traits, just one is usually dominate.

However, my understanding of this is entirely academic and entirely from reading wikipedia so take it all huge grain of salt.

So its not "being interested in D&D is masculine" its "wanting to feel protected by people is feminine"

Either way it doesn't make much sense to me. People are just people. These gender things are weird. These gender roles and gender norms and genders themselves are weird. They make no sense at all.

My experience on gaming forums tend to be that "being interested in D&D" or any other game of that nature is frequently considered masculine. Vampire: The Masquerade, for example, was considered unusual because more women were openly interested in it, and was credited with drawing more women to the hobby. I also recall getting into an argument on a video game publisher's forum about whether or not women had the right "wiring" to enjoy strategy games. Several men either gave authoritative "no, women aren't into strategy game" answers or made puerile "there are no women on the internet" jokes.

I'm biologically female. I identify as two-spirited, or genderqueer, or faerie depending on the cultural context. I often present as feminine for safety concerns, but I prefer to present as androgynous or leaning masculine. I don't identify strongly with either gender, but then I don't identify strongly with humanity period. On some days I experience dissatisfaction with having a female body, on others it makes me feel powerful. So, yeah, I don't really grok the gender binary.