Can any of you pinpoint how you feel or why?

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I find it really hard to describe what I'm feeling. I have a few categories - anger, anxious, happy, tired - to cover most of it.
If I'm feeling stressed I have to stop and think about what might be causing that.

When others talk about how they feel I try say words to show I understand what they're saying. Then they know I wish them to be happy and well.
But I don't have much emotion about what they are experiencing.
I find it hard to comfort a person who is unhappy because I don't know what to say.

Well I think they feel more than me because they freak out when they're "numb". Feeling nothing sort of feels like depression except I'm not depressed, I still like to do things. Depression for me equals numbness + don't want to do anything + everything is hopeless. I only ever had one period in my life were I felt happy were I was, and that only happened once and instead of life being long periods of nothing interrupted by strong emotions, it was a long period of happiness interrupted by strong emotions. I refer to happy as really really wanting to do everything (by everything I mean projects and special interests). But I don't mind the nothingness.

I think they feel those smaller emotions we might not catch. I think I'm good at determining how I feel because the emotion is either at 0 or like 100. Or they might feel that constant content/happiness I briefly experienced, who knows?

EDIT: Also I think I can recognize why I feel a certain way because the emotion sparks up immediately during the incident, else it's the nothingness.

Last edited by nonames on 22 Nov 2012, 12:59 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I can identify frustration and anxiety. I cannot identify depression directly, at least not at this point. I can identify some of the the behaviors and perceptions that indicate I am depressed - for example, while I may not be able to say when I specifically enjoy doing something, I can often notice when I do not enjoy something. In that case, anhedonia tells me that my depression is getting worse. Another sign is increased suicidal ideation or even obsession.

I have known that I lack a certain level of emotional demonstrativeness, but I never really thought there was something wrong with me so much as I felt that other people were too irrationally demonstrative. I don't really think that now, but emotional displays still put me off and I find some of them confusing.

maybe they're stressed on their own. becuase they're aware of their social rank and all that and what may change it. stress actually decreases your ability to think lol so literally they may not be able to think at all at some point - in which case maybe that's why they drink alcohol regularly or go to stupid meditation classes.

if we're talking about negative emotions then it's great to be unemotional. i don't know when nt's refer to emotions 'emotional' are they just refring to stress. in the uk they word 'emotional' is like a language meme - and so i wonder if it refers to some single emotion (which of course is a stupid use of the word emotional technically - like most NT lazy language).

I cannot sense emotions in myself or others unless they are very extreme. I usually just am.