Do you announce your presence when you get home to others?

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I found that i need to decompress when getting hoe so i would just do that without greeting everyone. I also did this at work, just getting to the task at hand without greeting everyone on the way there.

I never announce my presence when I come home from somewhere. Usually, due to how my house is laid out, someone will notice when I come home. If they don't notice, I'll just go up to my room and do something. Then my mom will be ticked off since I didn't tell anyone I was home.

Live on your own. That's the unhelpful advice I always receive when wanting to share my experiences with live with people. That is not my real advice though, because we all know that moving somewhere to live on your own isn't always that easy for some people as it might be for others. Plus having arguements or whatever with the family doesn't mean living on your own will be the solution. Other problems could breed, making you wish you just had the problems you used to have with your family members.

Right now I live alone (although I immediately greet my kitties when I walk through the door or they greet me anyway). When I lived with my parents, though, I would say "hi" when I walked in if someone was within view. I never walked around the house looking for everyone, and if that is what most people do, I was certainly not aware of it.

I do not announce myself when I get home. If I see someone when I walk in I will say hi to them, otherwise I go and do what ever I was planning to. No other people are required.

This is an important insight! Just this weekend, my sister and her fiancee were staying with us for the holiday. We spent several hours at my in-laws' house with their family--and then, my own family in another state was miffed when I declined to talk to them via Skype, because I was burnt out socially! Why do people expect that everyone's social needs / stamina should be the same?

The texting option, however, is brilliant and very simple. I just got a phone with texting option, and it didn't even occur to me to use it when I arrived home, even though I got it specifically because sometimes I need to relay information to someone but don't feel like talking. Thanks for the suggestion!

I honestly can't remember a single time as a kid or young adult ever announcing my arrival. I usually headed straight for my room, changed clothes, and either listened to music or read. Now, I'm married with four children. When I arrive home, I still head straight for the room. If anyone sees me, great; if no one sees me, great. My wife and kids understand me (somewhat), so it's really not an issue if I just "hide out" for a little while. Besides, I have to recharge before helping the kids with their homework and facing the evening commotion.

When I am at my parents house I can just go straight to my room, although I usually peek in the door of our family room on my way and say "Hi". Everyone is okay with that because they just come into my room and talk to me when they want.

However, college was totally different and everyone said I was unapproachable, mean, self centered, weird, cold, etc . I would usually go to my room for awhile and then come out and be social to everyone. Although, if I didnt make an effort to say "Hi" then it seemed that later did not matter. Things were even worse when there were guests because then I was "mean" as I forced out a greeting to a complete stranger.

No, not normally. Although it's only my husband and I.

When I was living with a couple of friends I used to come in and go straight to my room. I had to have some alone time before I could deal with them. I remember one day one of them met me at the door and had exciting news of some kind, she was babbling at me and I hadn't even walked in the door. I tried to be nice and polite but I wanted to throw her across the room.

Throw her across the room? You were being kind . I had this experience once and could do nothing but stare at my housemate so loathingly I think she got a bit scared. She's never done it again but continues to call from the kitchen "Hiiiiiiiiiiiii!" in an annoyingly high pitched voice that makes me want to ram my keys into my ears. I don't know how many times I have to reply with an unenthusiastic "m-hm" before she quits it.

So announcing myself? Never.

if there were other people in my home when i got back home, i would certainly announce my presence.
they would be at great risk of injury.

This. It's not a problem now that I share the house only with my cat (and I can greet her, no problem ), but back when I lived with family it was a bit of a struggle. I especially hated being interrupted during the "transition from outside to inside" routine where I would take off my shoes and street clothes, take my keys and wallet out of my pockets and put them down, wash my hands, that sort of thing. It just seemed so rude and I sometimes snapped back "just give me a minute, I'm not really home yet"! I assumed nobody would like to be interrupted during that time, but hey, who knows?

As a kid I would go further than this: sometimes when I came home from school I would try to sneak into the house, into the bathroom to wash my hands, and into my room all without being unnoticed. Sometimes I'd get seen straight away and other times not for half an hour. It was a bit of a game for me, seeing how long I could go without anyone noticing me, but it used to freak my family out.

It's just me and my wife at home. When I can I like to scare her. I hope she's in the bedroom, which is at the opposite end of our apartment from the door. I like to sneak all the way back and go undetected for as long as possible. Then try to catch her off guard. I don't do it to be mean, and she knows this.

Although there are some times when I just want to be alone. As a teenager, I'd always get home before anyone else, and that allowed me to decompress a bit.