are you bored by small talk?

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I am annoyed by it because of its lack of depth, but have learned to accept it as a part of getting along with NTs. They use it to "test the waters" so to speak to determine if you're a friendly person...so I see it as a prerequisite to getting to the deeper stuff. I'll do it to break the ice, but I will not really base a friendship upon it.

That is what I would consider small talk...basically talking just to avoid what might be considered awkward silence. The vast majority of the time I would prefer the silence. A lot of times I do not even try to hide my dislike of it. I might engage on a very minimal level, nod to acknowledge something was said and either leave it at that or attempt to engage the person in a conversation with more meaning. At this point you get a pretty good idea if they actually want to engage in conversation or just small talk, because they will either indulge or create a reason to avoid it. I definitely would not consider my perspective as a NT norm, just thought I would share...

I agree with this, there is a point to small talk but I find it very superficial and quickly get bored of it. Also if I'm not in the mood to talk to someone I find it impossible to feign the cheerfulness and enthusiasm necessary for small talk.

Cannot stand small talk, what's the point of talking rubbish about nothing. Mind numbingly boring.

People bore me, so I'm generaly bored an frustrated with most conversation, especially if I'm not a part of it (people ask me something every now and then).

If I don't have anything useful to say, I don't say anything. I don't understand why this is such a difficult concept for NT's to grasp? >_> Why do they expect me to talk to everyone at parties?

I can do it, but I hate it.

Bored no?. But i dont get it.

Its like they ask you about something they dont really care about.

Its like when im out shopping the person at the checkout will ask something like, having a good day?. But i can swear i can detect it as fake, They are just saying it. So why should i waste time on a fake question.

For me i would be more polite to not say anything at all, than pointless stuff like that. Which im not even prefered to answer, so i just stand they looking stupid.

I really hate small talk. I can't do it at all with strangers and just wind up looking like an idiot. If my friends are making small talk, I usually just jump right in with something deeper and they'll catch onto that, and if they're talking to people I don't know, I just sort of stand back and watch. I think small talk just needs to go away.

especially when in a group all small-talk at once, it is very hard for me to follow them.
the same makes me confused and tired, the same what makes them happy.
they seem to really enjoy that muddle.
what is it for? maybe something normative for group-behavior?

Hell Yeah

There is something worse than generic small talk - small talks about sports. A special hell at my work. Run. Run and hide little Aspie.

I don't really like it, but I do it sometimes. Why do people like it anyway?

YES, I am bord by it, and I think itd be BANNED. "Trash talk" is what it sounds, a complete trash. You don´t learn anything from it and in addition, it makes you feel like a complete idiot because you are unable of conducting it.

Yes and if i really do like that people its make me sad, because i know how important smalltalk is for them to show each other, that they are friends and so on. So in order to show my friends i like them i try to do it, but its costing me much energy and i cant do it if i am already tired because of my work and so on...

So in the end i know, i should do small talk to them much more often, still if i do it, i get stressed because i need the time outside my work to relax. So if i relax as i should, i have energy, but i am sad, that i refused my friends. If if visit my friends and have a small talk evening, i am happy that they are happy and that they are my friends, but i am completely exhausted afterwards.

That suchs.

Small talk is extremely pointless and boring. When I am in a situation where I feel forced to try to make small talk I just feel awkward and like I'm having to put on an act which is really alien to me.