How do you respond to hugs?

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unless I'm sexually attracted to you I don't really want to touch you at all. I've learned that sometimes people who are upset want me to hug them, and some people just do it automatically in greeting, and I accommodate both of those things, but that has nothing to do with what I want. in my perfect world we'd all bow at each other like the Japanese.

however if I'm attracted to you, please feel free to hold me as long as you like...that's actually why I don't like it from other people. it's like something I attribute more emotional intimacy and a more specific sort of emotion into than society in general seems to.

I don't like to hug people I dislike. If I like the person as in friends or more it is usually not a problem. I do have a problem with women who are much taller than I am that have large breasts, since I'm pretty short. That can be an issue, for me because it seems awkward to hug and have my face or head touching their breasts. I have never got a complaint about it, but I worry that one will complain some day.

Love hugs with people I like. Hate hugs from people who I just met...those ones are so awkward.

If you're REALLY close to me, sometimes i like it, and mostly accept it. - Any other makes me freeze, and vanna scream, or go in panic! - But somehow i manage to control myself, most of the time...

I never know what to do

I really dont like being touched

I quite enjoy hugs with my direct family (parents, brother), hugs from other people I dislike mostly because they feel awkward, not because of sensory issues.

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To sum it up: I cower. And I get very stiff. I dislike being touched, actually. For example, there was a girl I used to like. There was one time when she appeared behind me and put her hand on my shoulder. I cowered, even though I liked her.

I have no idea why I dislike physical affection, though. Maybe it is because I am not used to it: I stopped showing affection towards my parents when I was about 5-6 years old.

I like them.

I don’t relate or recognize what people get out of hugging each other. I have been in situations where I comforted someone by patting their arm or lending a hand to helping them up if they fall, but hugging I just don’t understand. I’ve just added that social action to the pile of social procedures I don’t relate to. In my mind I always ask – did the hug fix whatever it was that was wrong? Or did it make it better? When I’m in a bind I’d rather have practical solutions to fix the issue. A hug isn’t going to solve any problem I may have.

I've been hugged by surprise and it is never pleasant. I don't make a big deal about it, unless I'm in a bad mood. Entering my personal space just isn't something that helps me -- which is probably the point of why they do it. They want to help in some way. However, I think it should be common courtesy to ask before giving hugs, and don't act hurt if I say no thanks. Some people like them and some don't. I doubt it is an AS thing though. Many cultures have different social norms and hugs don't translate across all cultures.

I will typically stiffen up (in fact, the other day my mom told me that that's why she enjoyed hugging me so much ) Also, if I'm not expecting it and not in a good mood there is a very good possibility that I will do whatever it takes to get someone off of me. In fact, one time a friend walked up to me and hugged me and I accidentally threw them off of me and into a set of lockers.

Not well.......

I don't tolerate uninvited human touch. If there's hugging to be done, I initiate. My mother is the only exception, and even that's dicey.

Last year, she hugged me when I wasn't expecting it, and I was no longer used to being touched by her. I slammed my elbow back and caught her in the chest.

Didn't mean to hit her, but it's an involuntary reflex.