Talking too much

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I can talk too much, and have to guard against it.

In small social group settings (e.g. 3 or more in a coffee shop) I will usually remain silent until an area of interest comes up. Then I will chime in, but am careful to limit my comments to one or two sentences. This is seldom an enjoyable experience and prefer to avoid such groups.

Business group meetings can be torture. At some point I typically become convinced that they are all wrong and that only I am correct. Meltdowns can sometimes ensue; again, not an enjoyable experience.

One-on-one social discussions are where I do better, but only because for a time I deliberately studied Active Listening (google it). In the past, people have told me how much they enjoy talking to me. Those were instances where I basically checked-out of the conversation and simply practiced Active Listening. The advantage these episodes had for me, though, is that over time I began to subconsciously incorporate those techniques into my normal, everyday discourse with people.

I still have to guard against becoming socially over-stimulated and talking too much. I find that monitoring what I say and limiting it to one, two, or at most three sentences can help. Also making sure that my comments acknowledge and build on what the other person just said helps keep me in line with where the other person wants the conversation to go.

Sometimes I talk too much

Sometimes I talk too little

Plenty of (presumably) neurotypical lil dipshits, talk too much and too loud and there are too many of them.


.these ass holes are manipulative and judgmental

They don't let you disagree

They act like every thought and emotion that goes through their stupidass head is the latest greatest scientific invention

When I make the mistake of saying the slightest thing those b*****s have the nerve to grunt "huh" and "what". Like it is the etiquette equivalent of "excuse me"

If they like it they say "cool"

A job interviewer asked "where were you born"

Answer

"Cool cool cool "

He acted like I had a moral obligation to say "thank you" for the compliment

Otherwise if he did not find it "cool", then I had a moral duty to apologize and be born in the correct location,

Stupid lil penis

Some neurotypicals (uppity extroverts and negative extroverts) act like every slightest thing is so funny


Pseudobulbar affect





And I get paranoid they are laughing at me


They act like they know everything is ok





If they don't like it they say "sucks"

Like they have a moral right to veto anything they don't like


Or "why?"


A karate instructor had the nerve to ask me "why are you trembling?"

Ativan side effects

"I don't care. I've seen you not do it before. Stop it"


How about , "why are you alive?". "I don't care. I've seen you not do it before. Stop it".


She told me a correct statement

And it makes sense


But the implication is that, just because you did something before, you can do it again

The implication is wrong


For example when I was born I weighed eight pounds and I can't do it again


f**k mister redelings



"Why" could be a justified and good question, but only when equally applied to things you like and don't like.


Same amount of scrutiny



Anyways, even if the statement is not judgmental literally, the implication is judgmental


"You bit the sticker off the apple"

Is correct, but I don't want or need a running commentary of everything I do


She acted like I was a football game and she was a sports announcer



Entitled lil b***h


f**k Nate Pearson and it's dad

I can run hot and cold on this. If I am around a small group of trusted people, I can be quite chatty. If I'm around people I don't know or just never speak to, then you will hardly get a word out of me. In my current work situation, I don't say much but I've had others where I have been somewhat chatty. At one job I had, back in my mid 20s, at first everyone thought I was deaf at first as I never spoke.

When I go visit family, I have to watch myself. Meaning, if I talk to much I get myself in trouble and if I don't talk then I'll get asked "What's wrong?" "Aren't you having fun?" of I'll get accused of acting rude. I have to be careful around my father or I'll get snapped at "Get to the point" " Ok we get it!". Luckily, family gatherings are only about 3 times a year.

When my parents are in town, I just kind of go with the flow. I learned long ago, that's there's no point in trying to convince them with facts or anything, there to set in there ways.

I talk too much even if I'm feeling depressed or anxious. I have ADHD and I get impulsive urges to talk. I don't have special interests so I don't talk about the same thing, I just like to speak. Sometimes something pops into my head that is too random or irrelevant and I stop myself from saying it but still wish I could say it. I just want people to know what I'm feeling.

That's why I post a lot on WP, because there are slightly different rules on any internet forums/social media sites than there are with offline social interaction.

you sound exactly like me!. except you don't actually talk. I think people around me think i talk to much. I start talking then realise people aren't interested in me.

Oh yes, I've heard this pointed out to me several times in an insincere manner..

I sometimes have to end an e-mail or post with:
I am sorry this was so long, I didn't have time to make it shorter.