Asperger's people described as "weak"??

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Well sometimes people think I am too nice, or too sensative and should 'toughen up' in a lot of situations where it really just isn't so simple. But then I don't exactly feel like a strong person when I am contemplating suicide or just anything to stop feeling what I am feeling or when stupid PTSD/anxiety symptoms get triggerred and I feel like I'm in danger. I also really cannot handle stress, even normal amounts are too much. Meh I don't know in some ways I have strength I suppose like I seem resistant to conditioning in a lot of ways, which means I take information with a grain of salt and read up on the facts and what not to try and be informed about things. Therapists have told me 'you're a strong person for getting through all this.' but I never believe it.

No ASD person who lives and survives in the NT world is weak. You have to be strong to accomplish this, because the bar is so high for us.

A lot of NTs seem to be confused: they think that kindness (in someone's nature and personality) is weakness. Many of them have this warped "survival of the fittest/dog eat dog" approach to life - and they project it on to others. They hate weakness in themselves so they compensate by despising it in others (projection). They don't see us as we are; they see us as they are. So they don't see us accurately a lot of the time. Of course there are some nice NTs, who see clearly. But not that many.

Their worship of power and hierarchy blinds them to a lot of possibilities for a happier, healthier, more loving life.

I've been called weak but only in the physical sense. Like they take one look at me and say, let me get that for you. It used to really bother me and I did a lot of foolish things trying to prove I was physically strong, and now I just have a bad back to show for it.

People say the opposite about me in the emotional sense. If only I had a dime for every time I heard something like "oh you're such a strong person." I hate hearing that. It usually means they are not going to offer me any emotional support.

I've also been told many times that I am intimidating. And since they obviously do not mean physically they must mean it is my personality. My dad even said I was intimidating as a little girl.

Years ago ONE person called me weak-willed, once. It was a girl I knew in college, a fellow music major, and she said it because I was giving up my major. It was unfair and I never forgot that.

Also ONE person called me fragile, and looking back I should have taken that as a warning sign of what would come later.

Here's the thing, when people point out weakness because they sincerely want to help you, it's not so bad. Like I had a coworker once who kept telling me to be careful with my back but I didn't listen.

But other times when people point out weakness it means they are sizing you up to see how they might hurt you.