Tyri0n wrote:
Most people with Aspergers also have NLD, so it could be a good route to safe disclosure if you really need accommodations, including social accommodations, with something, even if you don't technically have it.
If you've learned not to act weird (hopefully you have), then you could use this as your "disclosure" with your dates also, to explain your slowness at certain things. This goes even if you don't have NLD because, to the outside observer, it's hard to tell the difference. Saying "I have NLD, so I can't read facial expressions well, make eye contact, and I get lost" is totally plausible even if you are HFA or aspie.
Most people I tell, I tell them about NVLD, sometimes I say it's "like Aspergers" but maybe I'll leave that out. But I have NVLD, though. To be honest, my NVLD causes more problems than the Aspergers, I'd be perfectly cool with being as socially awkward as I am now (extremely) if I had good visual spatial skills and organization.