The "Flap" about "Stimming"

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your going to insult some people whether you say stimming or flapping, I personaly prefer the word stimming because it sounds less blunt

"Flapping" sounds like something someone would do if they were quadraplegic, prevented from communicating, an so they flap their arm up and down sporadically in hopes of bringing attention to themselves.

"Stimming" sounds like the activity of using heroin or speed intravenously.

When i start stimming its always a reaction to me being very confused and or disturbed which is why my mom attempts to calm me down, it doesn't bother her, but it bothers her that i'm bothered :o But yeah i don't see why generally people have the whole stop stimming reaction because like someone said earlier in this thread, its not actually bothering anyone :/

Quite on the contrary of bothering, it is soothing, relaxing. You create some "peace" and relaxation for yourself, which should be pretty much the sense of stimming.
I don't understand the "stop doing that"-attitude either.

I refer to mine as "stereotypies."

flapping....uhg sounds like fapping...awkward

and flapping brings to mind a picture of a giant bird (Like a blue giant sparrow) flapping it's wings in a super market....well that's the imagery that comes to my mind.

Oh the irony, flapping makes me think of a bird with huge wings.

Although I can't give any official word on anything, being a lay person who's never met you or seen you do what you describe, I still have to say it sounds like the kind of thing others have described, including me. Does that help you?

I do now too because my mom used to call it "patchkaing -which is a Yiddish term that translates as "fiddling" since I twirl my fingers in front of my eyes -or dangle a string in front of my face - so it's like fiddling but of course that isn't really an accurate term to cover all stims. Stimming is short for self stimulation and it was pointed out to me that this can also mean masturbating so now I use the term stereotypies.

i like stimming

Making up different words for words we are already used to such as "stimming" seems ridiculous.
Maybe high school perhaps= where someone might want to do that.

The adult world well at least some of us have a hard enough time keeping up with abbreviations on cell phones (i don't bother) or spoken shorthand by the newer generation's youth.

There's no need to challenge anything. Terms are terms, let me adult.

Flapping implies flapping, not other stims.
Stims encompasses all stims.

You know, by the time I posted this response on January 5, I was already wishing I'd never started this thread. I feel really miserable now. I can see how stupid my original post was, but this thing keeps going on and on. I'm not posting in this thread again, and I hope everyone else will forget about it, too. Then it can just fade into obscurity, instead of being pushed up the list every time there's another reply, so others will keep seeing it over and over again. I get that I had a bad idea. I didn't mind people being honest and saying so, but I'm now very tired of being reminded and reminded and reminded of just how bad it was. I was wrong. I admit it. I'm embarrassed. Can we stop now, please?