Aspie men, do you ever get unwanted attention from women?

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Yeah..... not on a daily basis but fairly often. Normally either when Im in an unsociable mood or when I don't have anywhere to take them or something like that.... It's rare that I get the attention from the real hotties on a day when I'm actually looking for it, but it does happen.

Oh and for the record im 99% sure that its my total lack of interest in them that makes them start harassing me.

I get plenty of attention. Recently I was given a rose by a young lady with her friends in the city. Does this make me lucky? Not much. I usually come across as if I'm not interested, and then they leave me alone :/

Yeah sure, it happens. As soon as I tell them "look, I'm here for X not this(you)" they leave me alone. I don't want nor need a needy, err better, half. It's not like I can't talk to them, but it's too much work to seem interesting and/or funny when truth be told you're more interested in getting whatever you're doing done and getting out of there as quickly as possible.

Occasionally, but whenever it happens I usually make a fool out of myself. Either by running away (literally) or just by diverting attention away from my self. A couple of times my friends have had to explain to me that a girl was coming on to me (after I've completely ignored her attempts and pick up lines and she has given up). The most annoying thing is when they pinch me in the arse in clubs and the like, I mean come on, how the hell are you meant to respond to that?
Annoyingly I've never had any wanted attention. I think it would be nice if there was some way of knowing when they were incoming, so you would at least have time to prepare.

What the hell kind of thread is this?

What's next, going on a forum for midgets and asking them if they often bump their heads on the ceiling lights?

The opposite of that is true.

Maybe it's because we are less-threatening than normal people. Girls have been nice to me before and it makes me feel good that people care. One time this girl took my test up to the teacher, and then this other one gave me a paper that I forgot in the classroom (2 days old) and I thought that was really kind.

Obesity. The best way of avoiding women.

Be careful how you push them away. It can be very hurtful to be rejected, if it's not done nicely. I recommend talking to them for a bit, and mentioning your girlfriend - even if you don't have one. It's the nicest way.

I hope several of you that answered yes don't go and make any threads about how you can't get a girlfriend.

I think I might have . Honestly though please don't get the idea from my reply that I'm some sort of smooth player. I am completely oblivious when it comes to women, most of they time when they come on to me I'm convinced that its some sort of inside joke, you know like that whole "riding dirty" thing. That or I don't have the slightest clue what the hell they want, (eg: a girl once asked me if I liked dancing, seemed like a fairly reasonable question to me. I answered no because I can't dance. In retrospect she may have been asking me if I wanted to dance, either way I would have still said no because I really can't dance).
Seriously though I have as bad social skills as anyone else here, hell possibly worse, I still can't do anything even when they try to make it easy.

Ridiculous. When I'm out for my evening walk and some drunk morons who just happen to be halfway attractive females start catcalling, I'm supposed to ask one of them out? Or when a girl walks up to me and tells me in no uncertain terms the sexual acts she'd like to perform with me, I'm supposed to just go along with it and see if I can turn it into a meaningful relationship? Yeah, whatever. Sure, there are instances when even I can read the situation and understand what's going on but that doesn't mean I should follow up on it and it doesn't mean that my "passing up on the chance" negates any claim to sympathy for the struggles I endure in trying to meet suitable females.

Some of you may remember my rantings about the online girlfriend I had and that I broke up with because I didn't trust her. I still miss her and fantasize about having sex with her but I still know that "she" could have been someone who was rediculing me. I had to break up with her, I was too afraid.

I wouldn't say, its because you are less threatning than an NT. Its just that girls don't like it when guys always view them as sex objects. I'm a female and it seems like I can't have a decent conversation with an NT male without him making some sort of sexist comment like "Nice tits" or "Nice a$$" or trying to cop a feel. That really gets on my nerves. It seems like aspie guys are more shy and more gentleman like. If they are lusting after me, at least they keep it to themselves.

Maybe thats what girls like about you. Because you treat them like a lady.

Of course not, but still, you CAN get a girlfriend if you want to. So stop whining that you can't. Maybe you should lower your standards if you're desperate enough to make a pity thread about girlfriends.

I can get guys, but not ones i'm interested in, so i'm always single. But the difference between me and someone else is that I DON'T make whiny threads about it.


For the record, guenuine threads about being lonely are fine. But just not if the person is lonely from being picky and choosy and then doesn't know why they are lonely.