Phone vs Face-to-Face

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I find it harder to understand talking over the phone which is somewhat of a memory hog so I cannot think of tihngs to say at the same time they are talking. I really want to say something but so much of my though process goes into deciphering what they are saying I can barely make it out and not do anything else at the same time.

I do not mind receiving a phone call, especially from someone I know. However having to make one is not nice at all.

Perhaps phone calls are less preferable when you initiate them because you can not gauge whether a person is being interrupted by you, and it has a different set of social rules which many people will have practiced less.

I dread phone conversations. Unfortunately for me this a sizable portion of my work.

I think, for me anyways, visual cues are less difficult for me to pick up on than audio cues. Add to that the, at some level, uncomfortable concept of talking with this somewhat abstract idea of a person who I can not see and is of some considerable distance; I think that requires subtly more mental resources in an already strained system than does a face-to-face conversation. I find that when I am having a conversation on the phone my susceptibility to distraction and confusion to be greatly increased and my ability to "fake my way through" a conversation to be substantially diminished. It is all terribly exhausting.

I just told someone today that asked me to call them that I wouldn't because I felt better just texting or messaging. I've gotten a cellphone but have told all of my friends that I don't have talk only text. I hate calling out somewhere to talk to someone, I have avoided calling back a job interview for two days. Things one the phone get jumbled especially if the tv or radio is on or if there is other people talking from either side of the phone. Things just don't feel in control over the phone. I would always prefer face to face over anything, always avoid eye contact, always seemed creepy to me to have to stare at someone's eyes, I'm usually out of tone to reading body language, but sometimes I have no problems. Not to mention that it doesn't matter what I'm doing if the phone rings it interrupted whatever I had been doing there for the person on the other end has already aggregated me and I don't want to have a conversation beyond that point. I do return calls if it's someone like my mom or someone I need to talk to but only when it's when I want.

I fit the stereotypes, I prefer face to face becouse the talk happens more naturally, I can't read anyone but the NT talking to me can read me to a point and can avoid some alkward moments and asumpstons. Phone audio quality(cell phones are by far the worst) screws me up since I am already bad at finding my place to talk. people often ask if i'm still there and I often end up talking over them, I won't use a cell phone or VOIP becouse the delay only makes it worse. Hate calling cells becouse 1/2 the time the person is driving or something, If ordering something I always visit the office so I can review the puchase recept before paying as my phone instructions often get misheard. I don't think it helps to have a slight speech issue either, I often end up spelling out stuff.

Same as everyone, else, I completely hate talking on the phone. I'll tolerate for my job, since they pay me, or when it's my mom calling ... or when it's an emergency/something INCREDIBLY time-sensitive... But otherwise avoid it as much as humanly possible.

Similar reasons as well. I have trouble telling when it's my turn to talk. I the call quality isn't very good, it takes me a lot of concentration to parse what's being said, which gets even worse if I'm in just about any public environment. The extra concentration it takes has made me do things like miss bus or train stops before because it takes everything in my head just to half-understand what the other person is saying.

My reply with message on my iPhone looks like this (and it's only slightly a joke).

For me... possibly.
I have fuzzy hearing. I've got no problem with volume, but clarity can be a real issue. Making out words can be a nightmare... and trying to do it over the phone just makes it that much harder.
One of my co-workers (technically in the team but based in Germany) likes to phone me to ask questions, and I usually pester him to use e-mail instead.... as trying to get through his verbal quirkiness, his accent AND the phone issues is a bit much.