LtlPinkCoupe wrote:
My problem is that no matter how reassured I am, it's never enough....I'm always insecure and unsure of what to do next.
This is me exactly. I think it's because there are so many things that I'm told are not the correct way to act that I never could have guessed weren't the correct way to act, so I feel like ANYTHING I do could be wrong and I have no way of knowing except constant reassurance.
This has been a huge problem with me. I ask my dad several times a day whether he's mad at me, sometimes more than once for verification, and usually he calmly just says, "No, I'm not mad at you." Sometimes he says, "Why would you think I was mad at you?" Usually in those situations I feel like logic and past behavior suggest that he would not be mad about this sort of thing, but speculations on logic and past behavior aren't the same as knowing--the sort of "you just know" that NTs experience all the time--so I have to ask to make certain.
My dad is cool with it, but I have lost many potential friends because of this. They have accused me of being overdramatic or trying to get attention or sometimes just being stupid. Teachers and supervisors also accuse me of not taking enough initiative. I don't think they realize that I'm not being weird or dramatic or anything, I just don't have the same tools they have to know whether I'm doing something wrong, so I need to ask.
10 Jan 2013, 12:37 am
