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29 Jan 2013, 1:25 pm

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Love is love is love. If I met a woman tomorrow who assaulted me and was a maniac, I might initially call the police. Yet if I loved her, which is possible, I'd drop the charges and want to be with her. Even if she raped me, if I loved her I'd stay with her.


You sound like a perfect victim. I'm pretty worried for your safety.

If someone rapes you, that is a serious breach of your rights. Someone who is willing to do such a thing does not deserve romantic love (unless they do a lot of growing and changing).

Love does not conquer all. Sticking with an abuser out of love only causes you pain and makes them less motivated to change their ways. Even if you love them, you deserve to be safe, too. Don't let them abuse you.



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29 Jan 2013, 1:34 pm

@Pianist: I was meaning a 'bad' maniac; someone who is a criminal.


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31 Jan 2013, 12:37 am

I hope I am making some sense here.....


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31 Jan 2013, 3:30 am

equestriatola wrote:
At my appointment with my shrink today, I came to realize what the primary reason I do not have a GF (again, that may change) and my social problems.

1) The media in the U.S. today tends to sensationalize more on the negative; which in turn.......
2) .....results in many females being fearful of someone like me.

What do you think? I think this may explain why some people have looked upon me like I am a maniac.

The NTs will always fear what they do not understand. You may find a woman yet do not give up. The media will always put a negative slant to the thing that sells. They may say Adam Lanza was ASD and it has no coralation to violentence put they just hear ASD. Sorry if I pissed in your chips.


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31 Jan 2013, 10:23 am

@murderface: That's what I have noticed over the past decade.


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31 Jan 2013, 10:40 am

I guess I've been lucky, I've always managed to find women who are crazier than me.



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31 Jan 2013, 2:59 pm

equestriatola wrote:
Thank you, chloe33.

I sometimes feel like girls who don't get or just hate me put bounties on my head! It's so distressing.....


Your welcome.
The whole Sandy Hook thing... from what it sounded like was that they had him diagnosed around the period the parents divorced. Adam and mother were getting a good 250,000+ from dad per year.
However if he were being diagnosed due to a divorce it's likely he didn't have a good doctor diagnose him. There seems a plethora of problems wrong with that family including their dynamics and imo, possible BPD.
There was a lot of heat from Autism Rights groups and individuals who support that Autistics are not violent like that and those that were supportive of us did make a really big impact on the media.
(I followed this case and did a lot of article reading).

It's a tragedy as the warning signs were missed. Also prior to his brother hearing about it, he seemed to know and be absolutely certain his brother Adam has committed the act prior to having any proof. So my guess is possibly Adam had "hinted" to family at some point. I think the mom was just overwhelmed and already melted down...



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31 Jan 2013, 3:59 pm

About me, however: I am a nice guy. It's just sad, as I said, how unaltruistic the world is.


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31 Jan 2013, 4:06 pm

equestriatola wrote:
At my appointment with my shrink today, I came to realize what the primary reason I do not have a GF (again, that may change) and my social problems.

1) The media in the U.S. today tends to sensationalize more on the negative; which in turn.......
2) .....results in many females being fearful of someone like me.

What do you think? I think this may explain why some people have looked upon me like I am a maniac.

The media cause a lot of crazy sh!t... but in this case I'd have to say.... NOPE.


When people are given a wider range of options, they tend to get greedy... that is all.
Nobody is in it for the "greater good" (though they honestly believe everyone else should be)... They're all in it for themselves.
The reason so many of us (especially males) tend to remain alone is because we are more self-involved and distanced from others... which pretty much makes it clear that we're not just put here to serve someone ELSE's needs. We're not exactly "provider" material.
We're "Hard Mode"...

... or at least most are. I'm "Insanity / Nightmare / Chaos" difficulty, personally. Not that I much care any more.


O'course women have it differently. Not half so many solo Aut-kin females. No shortage of men who just want to stick their d!ck in something... and crude as that is, it at least opens up the possibility of actually getting to know them later. Funny that, eh?



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31 Jan 2013, 4:11 pm

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I guess I've been lucky, I've always managed to find women who are crazier than me.

I've had one bipolar, one "village bicycle", converted one bisexual to strict lesbianism, two chronic depressives with suicidal tendencies (but an annoying lack of homicidal equivalent)... and one person I generally felt I had a connection with except she found someone better (and since the connection was founded on mutual open selfishness and sadistic tendencies, I couldn't complain).

... Feck, I'm getting blood on my keyboard again.

My blood. Nobody else's.
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About me, however: I am a nice guy. It's just sad, as I said, how unaltruistic the world is.

... Yyyeeeaahhh.... y'know, nobody really likes a nice guy. That right there is doormat territory.
That said, when they said women like bad boys, I don't think they meant paranoid, misanthropic, sadistic, transpeciated nutcases like me.



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04 Feb 2013, 11:19 pm

I seem to be getting mixed signals here.....


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05 Feb 2013, 12:17 am

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I guess I've been lucky, I've always managed to find women who are crazier than me.

I have the kind of a princely look, that tends to attract a lot of crazy women. Haven't had sex in over 5 years though. I find myself asexual most of the time and perversely heterosexual (in a good animalistic way as the ladies tell me) when the situation is ripe (I guess I prefer when women approach/seduce me with an "inappropriate" intent). Trying to explain my emotional otherness tends to have a big de-rousing effect on most women. I find it disgusting to find any, if at all a release with a prostitute (too much connection to slavery, so I'm never really going to try it properly, but made some attempts that ended up in a personal soliloquy I had to pay the listening time for). Nothing to worry about though. As our age increases, the opposite sex (or the same depending on your preference) will find you more and more attractive and as your oddities and eccentricities mature. You'll be more capable of directing them towards your own use. We definitely tend to mature socially at a slower rate than the general population. Learning from the more mature perspective has way more benefits then taking or doing it raw as you think a person your age should behave :wink: .



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05 Feb 2013, 12:47 am

Are you overweight?
Do you have a neckbeard?
Do you wear fedoras?
Are you a fan of My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, there's a better explanation as to your lack of significant other.



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05 Feb 2013, 9:09 am

Rascal77s wrote:
I hear you. I myself am a sucker for unstable women with large kitchen knives. What can I say, I'm an adrenalin junky.

Oh yeah, borderline women are the stuff of my dreams (nightmares?). If they're tripolar, the fun really begins then.
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... Yyyeeeaahhh.... y'know, nobody really likes a nice guy. That right there is doormat territory.

But didn't Leonard Cohen sing that "everybody knows that the good guys last"? Besides, there is nothing wrong with a bit of masochism if the lady is gentle enough.



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05 Feb 2013, 9:16 am

This might be a little off topic, but does anyone have an opinion on schizophrenic women (bed wise that is). I've heard they're a real devil in the sack.



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05 Feb 2013, 3:45 pm

*shrug*


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