I never understood anything about celebrating birthdays. Not others', not mine. And nowadays I hate it more than ever, what with the local custom of spending lots of money just because someone you want to be on the good side of is having their birthday celebration in THEIR chosen restaurant. You have to dish out for a good present, plus your part of the restaurant bill (which includes a part of the bill of the person having a birthday), in addition for gas and parking to a place you would've never chosen to dine at. It amounts to so much money as I'd never spend on myself, birthday or not. I don't know how people do it when they have lots of friends and family. I'd go broke!
A close acquaintance 'NOTIFIED' me recently how she'd chosen to celebrate her birthday this year: a show and then a restaurant or bar. So I had to plan how I was going to pay for all HER choice of going out (I hate shows and bars). No way. Nowadays I just pass, and if they want to be offended because I can't afford their having been born, so be it.
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There are two means of refuge from the miseries of life: music and cats - Albert Schweitzer