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06 Feb 2013, 6:23 pm

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I wanted to pick pickles but the only options are dinosaurs, apples and Pikachu.

wtf.

I messed with your mind. I feel accomplished today.

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06 Feb 2013, 6:24 pm

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I wouldn't tell anyone.

Why wouldn't you tell anyone? Just curious.

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06 Feb 2013, 6:25 pm

jk1 wrote:

I think some people in a different thread were saying that once people know about your "disability", they most likely won't be bad to you because someone who treats a "disabled" person badly will be seen as a cruel/mean person and they don't want to be seen as such.

On the other hand, I know some people are ignorant enough to think people with AS are dangerous/deviant/evil. So, some people might actually avoid you after you tell them about AS.

I have never said anything to anyone about it (I'm not diagnosed yet any way). As I always say, once you say something to someone, you can't unsay it. If not necessary, don't say it.

I agree with you. People usually don't forget when it's a label. I haven't told anyone since the incident in Connecticut.

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06 Feb 2013, 6:27 pm

I've found it more or less doesn't matter one way or the other. I think in most ways it's more helpful to tell, as I'm such a bumbling socially awkward idiot people will cut me more slack.

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06 Feb 2013, 6:28 pm

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I havent told anyone as yet. Whats WP? I did tell a good friend before hand I think I might have it (he might also have it in my opinion). So he was cool about it. But thats because he is also socially weird and anxious like myself. Probably why we hang out together.

But as yet I wonder whether I should tell others. My strategy was to tell only a few people and then let gossip spread... I think telling people directly takes the awe out of it. However I dont know this is just all in my imagination so far..

Basically I'm going to process the diagnosis by myself for a few weeks before I tell anyone else. I'm also trying to decide whether the label has impacted my own consciousness. I'm askin myself whether it was a good idea or not to get diagnosed. hmmmm I dont know yet. I dont want to get boxed into an aspergers mindset or anything.

I embraced it once I found out this part of myself. WP= WrongPlanet :p... Honestly, that sounds like a bad idea, but if that's what you prefer, go for it. Just don't start disowning friendships and hiding in a corner. I think you'll be fine if you just stay the way you've always been; this is just to help you understand why you're different, in my opinion.

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06 Feb 2013, 9:48 pm

I never tell anyone and people still treat me differently.

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07 Feb 2013, 3:47 am

1000Knives wrote:

I've found it more or less doesn't matter one way or the other. I think in most ways it's more helpful to tell, as I'm such a bumbling socially awkward idiot people will cut me more slack.

thats what I'm hoping will happen in my situation

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07 Feb 2013, 3:47 am

Nonperson wrote:

I never tell anyone and people still treat me differently.

lol

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07 Feb 2013, 3:58 am

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I'll just think about it for a few weeks on whether to tell others or not. I think it might depend on how fully I embrace it. If I do, I'll be more confident and nonchalent to tell others. If not, I'm not sure what I'll do. I won't be disowning friendships, trust me, thats already been done. I'm totally over the "cool" people in my life sometimes glancing at each other like I'm an idiot. I have made it a habit not to hang around anyone that thinks I'm a loser or stupid. Which is pretty much half my old friends. If it becomes known I'm aspie they will feel a bit stupid themselves, suckers. Then they will come crawling back. Nah I don't know

that's just what my imagination hopes for. One thing I've definately decided is not to tell my employer anything perhaps..

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07 Feb 2013, 12:51 pm

Most people treat me worse upon hearing that I'm an Aspie. They make remarks such as "You're finding excuses for your own shortcomings." I no longer disclose that I'm on the autism spectrum.

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07 Feb 2013, 1:28 pm

I told all my friends who I go to school with via Facebook. Whilst a lot of people simply didn't read it, a lot of them did and I haven't noticed them treating me any differently as a result.

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07 Feb 2013, 3:22 pm

icyfire4w5 wrote:

Most people treat me worse upon hearing that I'm an Aspie. They make remarks such as "You're finding excuses for your own shortcomings." I no longer disclose that I'm on the autism spectrum.

The ones [I know personally] that do that are near the psychopathy spectrum.
The deniers I know quite well are generally bullies, so admitting you have disorder means they have to treat you better
[and treat every one better.....]

which they would rather not do
so they continue to blame and shame you
for power over you
psychopaths, really
true as*holes

Telling others allows you to see these types for what they are
Snap out of it loser idiot

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07 Feb 2013, 3:34 pm

The_Walrus wrote:

I told all my friends who I go to school with via Facebook. Whilst a lot of people simply didn't read it, a lot of them did and I haven't noticed them treating me any differently as a result.

Differently? How so?

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07 Feb 2013, 3:35 pm

1000Knives wrote:

I've found it more or less doesn't matter one way or the other. I think in most ways it's more helpful to tell, as I'm such a bumbling socially awkward idiot people will cut me more slack.

Well, at least you'll know who your friends are if they actually stick by your side.

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07 Feb 2013, 3:36 pm

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Nobody has treated me any different that I've noticed. I've been very open about it.

I'm glad some people haven't been discriminated against.

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07 Feb 2013, 3:38 pm

windtreeman wrote:

I've only told a handful of people. The people close to my age who have found out are pretty resistant to the idea, for whatever reason. Like the OP said, their first reaction is that it's not possible and I seem fine, which is an unbearably hypocritical statement from people who have specifically pointed out how strangely I act (not necessarily in a negative manner, more, bemused). With older people, it's been easier and they generally have more respect for the psychologist's opinion and the assessment's validity. The overwhelming vibe I've gotten so far, though, is to try and keep it to myself unless it serves a specific purpose. I have a lot of respect for people who are like 'screw it, I'll tell whoever, whenever!' but I feel too uncomfortable, I guess.

That's exactly what I think. I've been very open about it, and I tell whoever asks and is curious... but thanks to this experiment, I've actually noticed a difference. I kind of feel ashamed for telling people, but I guess I'll get over it. Just sucks sometimes; I like being open and talking about it, but I don't like being treated badly by telling people.

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