Do you have trouble realizing when someone is joking?

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usually not, but sometimes its the finding it funny part I struggle with.

I think NT humour is different. Conversely, I've noticed that some things I find hilarious dont raise so much as a smile from NT's.

That's the same with me.

I totally understand humour, sarcasum etc, I am always joking and looking for the funny angle in things.. I reckon its my way of getting through the world... or not acting my age ?
I enjoy banter and can give as much as I get, I guess I can go too far and I wish I would sometimes stop trying so hard but I have no control over it... my dad is similar in that respect, once I get my diagnosis I will maybe broach the subject with my parents..
If a joke isn't funny I will tell you it ain't funny.... I hate the so called jokes about disasters etc... I tell people I don't find them funny and don't want to hear them.

Stu

Mostly, I can work out pretty quickly if someone is joking or not. Sometimes deadpan humor can catch me out. More likely, people don't get my humor.

Yes, me too. I laugh at very silly and ridiculous things, they can crack me up big time, and I get quizzical looks from NTs that they are mildly amused at my uproarous laughter, but not the thing I am laughing at. They tend to display a bemused half-smile of surprise.

I don't know, I don't get into enough social situations to determine that. I think it depends on whether I know the person or not and understand their sense of hummer.

Recently I was in a hardware store collecting some paint color samples. On my way out a sales clerk asked me if I needed help. I said "no, I'm just picking up some paint color samples". He said "Oh, you can't take them out of the store". I said "I'm sorry I thought they were free for taking" and went to put them back.

Then he said he was just kidding. He thought it was pretty funny. Now maybe I wasn't paying attention to his body language or maybe he was good at sounding convincing. But the thing is I should have known from the context of the situation that it was a joke, since paint color samples are always free for taking because that's why they are there. I think I just didn't process things quickly enough to realize whether or not it was is a joke.

I have to say I thought it was funny too.

My daughter and I both are terrible with jokes, but I know quite a few NT people who are the same to be honest. I feel very uncomfortable around those people that constantly use that deadpan sort of humour, I tend to avoid people like that!

I do tend to take things literally when I talk to someone, but not because I don't understand humor. I think I just process things slowly, because afterwords I will realize that they were joking or trying to manipulate or con me, but only after thinking about it afterwards.

Sometimes I do but it's more often that someone tells a joke which I don't find funny and they think that I didn't get it was a joke. Like I don't get why people make teasing types of jokes like 'you hurt my feelings' or 'no you can't borrow that' and then they say just joking.

I often do not get jokes or their contexts. Peope have to explain them to me commonly.

I'll miss jokes sometimes. In particular, I have a tendency to answer rhetorical questions with serious answers.

I do this ALOT. And it fits in with the OP's question. It's a case of taking things too literally. Someone will make a joke about me or state a rhetorical question, and I'll go into some long-winded explanation regarding what they said. They'll come back with "I was just kidding." And I'll say "Oh I know, but I'm just saying..." and then complete my thought. Sometimes I know they were kidding, but a lot of times I didn't. My stress level tends to affect this reaction. If I'm feeling good and calm, I'll get the joke and just go along with it. It's when I'm in a more negative mindset that I go into my monologue.

Oddly enough, I make people laugh all the time. I'm told I"m really good with the quick comeback and witty retorts. I love jokes and standup comedy, and stuff like Monty Python, Mr. Bean and the Marx Brothers. So why I can't always get jokes when I can tell them myself I don't understand.

Mostly people don't know when I'M joking. Because even when I joke I'm still serious.

All the time. Especially when the jokes are mean or sarcastic. It literally comes off as offensive to me.

yeah I don't it either, responding is when the real problem shows. rhetorical questions... I always end-up looking or rather, feeling like a jackass.

Rarely - I'm usually pretty good with jokes.
But once in a while I take something seriously/literally that wasn't meant to be that way, or misread some dry British humour.

Meanwhile I have a relative that could never tell when others were joking when they were a child. They were pretty obvious about that, too, as there are plenty of stories of them asking if something was a joke or not as they could very rarely tell. It's only in hindsight that we can now see this as an Aspie trait this person had.