i have a HUGE heart... for babies and animals, no one else

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I called my therapist, and he helped me realize why, i used to get picked on a lot and kids used to make me cry and laugh at me, and im still looking for that sense of power, he said he can help me over come it.

I think other posters have been unnecessarily harsh on you. I'm a parent and would defend my children to the death, but making children cry doesn't necessarily involve any physical abuse, it could be by e.g. teasing. I'm not advocating any sort of bullying, including teasing, but if you notice OPs age s/he is only 16 themselves.

I commend you for asking for input from others as you obviously recognise it's not nice to want to do that and want to find a solution.

Recognising the behaviour I think would indicate that you are not sociopathic. I'm pleased you have spoken to your therapist and will be getting treatment.

I can basically feel compassion for all beings that are:
quiet, kind, polite, calm, tolerant, cute.

Everybody who is loud, moves unexpectedly or is overly extroverted is just a nuisance to me.

You are a bad person who needs help.

This a sixteen year old little girl we are talking about.

She is getting help! Can't you read more than one post above you in a thread. She is seeing a therapist, who has already analysed why she feels the need to behave like that.

And I disagree. An Aspie at the age of 16 is younger than their chronological age. We usually are emotionally younger than our actual age. For instance, my eight year old is emotionally like a four year old. Sixteen is a child and you could be giving her a complex talking so badly to her! I was so innocent and niaive at sixteen.

That's ridiculous. If the behaviour isn't analysed then how on earth can it be stopped! First you say "get help" and then you contradict yourself by saying that it's not help she needs but a firm hand.

If you are so sure that this behaviour will turn into something much worse down the line, then a firm hand would probably only exacerbate that by alienating the person, them feeling no-one understands them, just shouting at them and putting the fear into them to try to make them stop, it would get internalised and make them more anti-social. I do not advocate namby-pambiness at all, just a logical approach to ensure the issue is dealt with properly. That is what will stop it, and make the person more amenable to others because they find the appopriate outlet, rather than taking their frustrations out on innocent children.

I think you'll find that the neanderthal, violent attitude is what is sending society down the toilet. No-one has any manners any more, there is a violent thuggish attitude everywhere.

You only have to look at how pupils are assaulting teachers to see that. I have nowhere indicated that I do not believe people should be held accountable for their actions. That doesn't mean that their behaviour shouldn't be understood to be treated. I actually believe in punishments fitting the crime, there are too many criminals getting away with short sentences and time off for 'good behaviour'.

I'm sure many of the recent gun mass murders in America are the result of people that could have helped the individuals responsible, not bothering, and those individuals feeling not understood and wreaking their revenge after internalising pent up anger at people that failed them.

What do you suggest? Beating up sixteen year old girls to knock some sense into them?