Were you overall shy/reserved as a kid?

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I was outgoing but became shy in my mid teenage years...

I honestly wish I was reserved my whole childhood as I had A LOT of cringe worthy moments in my childhood, wasn't aware that I was aspie so I couldn't adjust and work around it.

Been shy and reserve ever since....

I was extremely outgoing until eight or nine. Anything that popped in my head was out the mouth to anyone.

I have always been extremely shy and socially inept, I was very aware that I was somehow different from a very young age, I have never been outgoing and generally I only talk with people I know, sometimes I'll talk to a stranger if they have an interest in one of my special interests, I have amassed a fair number over the years so its not like I never talk to anyone but I have also come a very long way from how shy I was during my youth.

No. But now as an adult, I've become very shy.

I was raised by a bunch of women, so I had no choice but to be very rebellious and indignant of being put down by anyone's inconsiderate remarks or attempts to bully me. Now I'm in my early 30's and became quite shy as I developed an uneasy sensibility towards people.
Developmental delay of a developmental delay...
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I've never been shy. I've always talked a lot. I still do.
But, despite that, I'm not a person that wants to make new friends.

I was very outgoing as a kid, I talked to everyone I met and I wouldn't shut up and even when I didn't have any friends I very easily entertained myself for hours, only when I hit 13 or so did I become withdrawn, like others in this thread kids paired off in to groups and I was excluded, I was also bullied by students, and I had trouble with learning. I ended up with terrible anxiety which I'm still dealing (I never realized what anxiety was until recently either) with but working through it now.

I was very reserved but I wasn't shy. I still am reserved.

I was extremely shy. I am still shy, but not as reserved.

I was shy and reserved and introverted, unless I got going about a special interest. I'm the same now, except I've added misanthropy to the mix.

Back then I thought people were basically good, but I still didn't want to have much to do with them.

Socially disinhibited, always have been and still am. Will talk the ear off of complete strangers.

I have flashes of shyness in situations where I expect a negative outcome from interaction, but on average I feel less shy than most NTs.

Ironically, I'm also an introvert. (By which I mean, I find interaction tiring and need alone time to recharge.)

Until I was about 7 1/2yrs, I could not be described as shy at all. I could even be described as a 'leader'. I used to round up kids, to be in my 'gang'. Then I'd organise song and dance shows. I also went around helping local kids to read and write, totally taking charge of the situation. I was full of energy and confidence. But, it all changed and I became shy and selectively mute. By the time I was about 11, I was socially anxious and actually quite scared of people. In recent years, I've gotten out of my shell and I'm kind of back to the way I was as a youngster. I'll talk to anyone at all, in fact, I'm usually the one to make the first move. I'm just not comfortable in groups of more than 3. I can come across as super confident, but I'm not, as I still have that internal voice telling me that people are going to think I'm weird or annoying or horrible. I'm outgoing and love social contact, but I'm an introvert and need my own space to recharge. My daughter's just as I was at her age.

Yeah, that too. And for me: asocial and aloof. I was never unhappy on my own doing my own things, but I could be bored with others, or just less amused than I would have been doing my own thing on my own. I seldom took pleasure in social interaction outside my family. I was never disappointed if a 'play date' was cancelled. I wasn't necessarily relieved either, just indifferent.

Extremely. I was the kind of kid who had to be given permission by a teacher to do something and would often just sit on the floor by myself. I've improved a lot since then because growing up demands it of you.

I wasn't really aware enough of people to be shy.