Link to list of female Aspie traits

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Pretty much with me, but my obsessions are as severe as my male counterparts and I'm very much into obsessions that men have.

Hey, look, it's the story of my life!

This might be too:

http://senmagazine.co.uk/articles/1157- ... -for-girls

The title of her book:-

'Party Planning for Children and Teens on the Autism Spectrum'

made me laugh

OMG! How would that read...let me see:

1. only invite one friend to the party as your child will not be able to handle a room full of children
2. ensure you have taken into account all food texture issues when planning the food
3. music must be on very low, or headphones must be supplied
4. no balloons allowed as the popping will distress your Aspie
5. party cannot last longer than half an hour as after this your Aspie will be emotionally exhausted

etc...

Lol yes!

I never wanted to attend my own birthday parties as a child

The problem has been solved as an adult as there's hardly anyone to have a party with! lol

I just get this picture in my head of some poor autistic child having endless 'autistic friendly' parties foisted on them by their well-meaning parents when they just don't want a party full stop!

Give me the food and leave me alone with the TV or a book to eat it - that would be my ideal party!

I'm 23 years old and I just recently identifies myself as a female with aspergers.

While growing up I was screened for many things. ADHD, hyper mania, depression, anxiety, and even Schizophrenia. I always felt I showed either one or two symptoms of each other those (schizophrenia only ever during a really traumatic part of my life). I never felt the diagnosis was right, as I have always been mostly function (just in my own weird way).

When I read specifically about FEMALES with aspergers, my eyes were opened. Everything became so clear and obvious. ALL of these symptoms are things I have struggled with. Some I have gotten over, others I still face everyday. Keeping a normal job is one I really struggle with right now.

Seeing this list really feels like reading about myself. I don't let myself have public fits, and I'm managing to do well in my marriage (but he is just as weird as I am in ways) - both those took a lot of work.

I'm happy I found a community and a lens in which life makes a lot more sense.

Go back to my original post and then hover over and click on the words:

Female Traits

On the topic of being a good chameleon...

I find that, although I have little to no social intuition, I'm pretty good at memorizing protocol, so in familiar situations I can feign social intuition. However, when I'm in a new situation, sometimes I do something incredibly daft because of my lack of intuition. And, because I've faked intuition in other scenarios, people assume I'm deliberately flouting social mores in that instance instead of just being clueless. Can anyone else relate to this? I honestly sometimes wish I was more blatantly autistic just to avoid this confusion...

I very much prefer Aspie females over NT females and, frankly, over Aspie males as well.
I have always had good relationships with the Aspie females that I have known.

YES...
Dresses comfortably due to sensory issues and practicality.
Will not spend much time on grooming and hair. Hairstyles usually have to be "wash and wear". Can be quite happy not grooming at all at times.
Usually a little more expressive in face and gesture than male counterparts.
Usually happiest at home or in other controlled environment.
Will not do well with verbal instruction--needs to write down or draw diagrams.
Emotionally immature and emotionally sensitive.
Anxiety and fear are predominant emotions.
Moody and prone to bouts of depression.
Stims to soothe when sad or agitated.
Prone to temper or crying meltdowns, even in public, sometimes over seemingly small things due to sensory or emotional overload.
Prone to mutism when stressed or upset, especially after a meltdown. Less likely to stutter than male counterparts but may have raspy voice monotone at times when stressed or sad.
Words and actions often misunderstood by others.
Perceived to be cold-natured and self-centered; unfriendly.
Is very outspoken at times, may get very fired up when talking about passions/obsessive interests.
Can be very shy or mute.

Funny how my GF has 100% of those symptoms (especially the meltdowns, mutism and constant anxiety/fear) but the psychologist seeing her says she does not in any way have Autism. I've been critical of how little so called experts know about ASDs but I've never met one who sees Autism as anything other than a male issue. How blind can this guy be?

Well she is a girl, so obviously she can't b e autistic.

Unfortunately this is me. I know I am diagnosed with mild AS anyway, I still prefer to suddenly have proof somewhere which tells me I may not have it. God I hate being this way.

There's one thing in the list what is a little bit unsettling, and that's the one that says that 9 out of 10 females on the spectrum suffer with gastro-intestinal difficulties or whatever it is, and stomach ulcers and IBS, etc. Touch wood, I've never actually had trouble with my bowels or digestion, and I know plenty of non-Aspies who do have a lot more IBS trouble than I've ever had. I don't want a stomach ulcer though, because I love my food (no I'm not overweight), and when you have stomach ulcers you can't eat certain foods like certain spices, fizzy drinks, acidic foods/drinks, etc. Admittedly I can't drink alcohol, but I think I just have a fear of having no conscious control, so I just choose to stay away from alcohol altogether, and may just have one or two glasses of a common alcohol, nothing too strong.

I do dress stylish enough to fit in and not stand out, but I don't overdo it. I don't care for make-up because I can't be bothered, and I feel claustrophobic when I have too much hair over my face which is why I don't care too much for grooming myself excessively either, although I do keep my hair in good condition and I don't have one that makes me look too plain.

I've never been gifted. My intelligence has always lingered around average, and I was actually underaverage with reading at school. When I was about 6, I remember all the girls in the class had learnt to read before me, and I seemed to be going at the same development with reading as most of the boys.

I tend to get obsessions with people, not objects, facts, numbers, animals or any other. So I am obsessed with bus-drivers, so I don't go memorizing the routes of buses, I only look out for information about bus-drivers. Unfortunately this sort of obsession gets me into trouble and makes me become like a pest to them. But I become so fascinated that I get myself too carried away before I realise I have got myself too involved.

My emotions are always up and down. I often get bouts of depression, and I go aloof and moody, especially when I am with my family. Often I get fed up with being an Aspie and wishing I was normal so much that it kind of messes up my state of mind and prevents me from relaxing and enjoying the things around me. I am getting CBT counseling for this.

dont be unhappy about that, lovey, its just the way you are.


with the bit about appearence i knew it doesnot fit me because i spend lot of my time grooming myself so my hair goes just right. i dont wear too much makeup i prefer just to wear blusher, lipstick and bit of eye shadow thats it .
my husband say i am beutiful with out makeup but i dont do it to impress him i do it because i like to do it.

i am very highly strung a lot call me opinionated. i may come across as shy but i can say my opinion and i am not shy to express myself either, although some people only think i am introverted because i dont like socialising.

about the gastro thing yes i have lot of trouble with my tummy and all that, but my husband doesnt mind at all.

i dont have obsessions, just casual interests like i like cooking things and i like sex with my husband but its not an obsession if you know what i mean, its just the things i like. my husband is adhd not autistic but he have obsessions more than me like gets obsessed with his films and he likes scary things he is into supernatural things, and things what scare me.

Well, I'm new here, and I do not have an official diagnosis -- but I must admit that there was a huge sigh of relief when I read this. I feel that the vast majority of the descriptions fit me pretty well.