whirlingmind
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21 Apr 2013, 1:01 pm
21 Apr 2013, 1:03 pm
i checked the site
one of the site is exclusively for dating.
whirlingmind
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Joined: 25 Oct 2007
Age: 57
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21 Apr 2013, 1:19 pm
21 Apr 2013, 2:47 pm
For some reason I couldn't reply to the post you wrote to me.
But I didn't say work. That is different. People are at work for a salary. People join causes and charities because they want to help. It's a different type of person. 
If you would reread my post you will see my advice was different than "ask a co worker to lunch." But it's up to you whether to try it or not of course. I am not sure what else to tell you so good luck.
22 Apr 2013, 12:21 am
22 Apr 2013, 5:13 am
But I didn't say work. That is different. People are at work for a salary. People join causes and charities because they want to help. It's a different type of person.
If you would reread my post you will see my advice was different than "ask a co worker to lunch." But it's up to you whether to try it or not of course. I am not sure what else to tell you so good luck.
i was into spirtual groups earlier i used to go for meditation but no progress in getting friends
or getting away from isolation
22 Apr 2013, 5:18 am
22 Apr 2013, 5:22 am
hey you were really helpful
i had attended some meetup groups but no friends
i looked totally misfit among them
as of now virtual people are my company
22 Apr 2013, 5:41 am
Don't go back.
You may not remember me but I posted in the Narcissistic parent thread a while back.
After a lot of chronic abuse and a few really bad incidents I don't talk to my mother anymore. Unfortunatly some other family members don't talk to me anymore. Apparently that is part of the problem with families influenced by narcissistis - if you drag the truth to the surface, the others are likely to disown you, despite sffering, witnessing, or supporting abuse from the parent.
Despite that, I am a lot happier not being around her, and I suspect from your posts that you are too.
You need to look after yourself. If you can not get suport from the rest of your family or your husband, then join a hobby group related to your interests, join a gym or bookclub - something you enjoy,or simply throw yourself into your interests. If you need someone to talk to do you have an telephone or online counselling service in your region similar to Australian lifeline etc?
http://www.lifeline.org.au/Get-Help
From what I have read, and from my personal experience, they don't change. They just suck you back in.
Blessingsxx
22 Apr 2013, 11:02 am
You may not remember me but I posted in the Narcissistic parent thread a while back.
After a lot of chronic abuse and a few really bad incidents I don't talk to my mother anymore. Unfortunatly some other family members don't talk to me anymore. Apparently that is part of the problem with families influenced by narcissistis - if you drag the truth to the surface, the others are likely to disown you, despite sffering, witnessing, or supporting abuse from the parent.
Despite that, I am a lot happier not being around her, and I suspect from your posts that you are too.
You need to look after yourself. If you can not get suport from the rest of your family or your husband, then join a hobby group related to your interests, join a gym or bookclub - something you enjoy,or simply throw yourself into your interests. If you need someone to talk to do you have an telephone or online counselling service in your region similar to Australian lifeline etc?
http://www.lifeline.org.au/Get-Help
From what I have read, and from my personal experience, they don't change. They just suck you back in.
Blessingsxx
The thing is Indian society is close knit and most of the people are close to their families
Whenever i observe my husbands side cousins they are close to their mothers
So when its festival time they visit their mothers house or their mother,brother,sister visit them.
Or during grand function the girl brings along her mother,brother,sister etc
But when its festival time, function time i dont have any place to go
Since everyone else goes to their mothers place
My mom calls me up but i dont go out of fear and i dont want repeat telecast of her narcissism
I cant describe the feeling of the loneliness when everyone else is surrounded by extended family
there is a emptiness in my house
I have joined meetups, hobby groups etc earlier without any sucess in making friends and acquaintance
22 Apr 2013, 1:24 pm
But I didn't say work. That is different. People are at work for a salary. People join causes and charities because they want to help. It's a different type of person.
If you would reread my post you will see my advice was different than "ask a co worker to lunch." But it's up to you whether to try it or not of course. I am not sure what else to tell you so good luck.
i was into spirtual groups earlier i used to go for meditation but no progress in getting friends
or getting away from isolation
I didn't say spiritual groups either, no offense.
