Double standards you encounter on a regular basis

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If I make a nasty comment about or to someone, then I’m bad or misbehaving or rude. If someone makes a similar comment to me, they’re at least partly right and always have the right to do so, that’s something I just have to be able to take.
If I snap at someone for saying something to me I don’t appreciate, then I am bad, rude, misbehaving or need to learn how to react properly. If someone snaps at me for something I said, then they’re in their right and I had it coming.
Now, I’m not excusing bad things I have done, but i do demand to be treated like everyone else. I am allowed to act the same way. Things aren’t worse coming out of my mouth than they are coming from anyone else.

If I approach anyone, I have to be non-pushy, but if anyone approaches me, i should pretty much throw away anything I hold in my hand so I can pay attention to them. If I try to ignore them, I'm rude and should put away whatever I'm doing to accomodate them, if they ignore me, they're busy and I need to leave them alone.

I once threw a rant to my mom about how much I dislike people in general, and I said that I have seen more impressive stuff in the toilet bowl. She sighed and looked sour and about to complain about me again. Then I added the magical words: “As one of the officers in JAG said about the recruits.”
She laughed then. Yeah, from a TV series it’s fun, from your daughter it’s misbehaving.

My dog was viciously attacked and my mother disbelieved me when I told her about it, how the other dog owner had reacted. That is until a woman who is practically a stranger and had witnessed it, confirmed my words.

Once when I was at a pub, a young girl we were with said, ''ew, there is a tiny bug on me, oh my God, it's like crawling up my arm and won't come off! Oh. My. God!'' and then she stood up and started prouncing around trying to shake the bug off. It finally did come off, and everybody in the group were just gazing at her and laughing (not at her). I immediately thought that if that was me saying that, people would say, ''oh, for Christ sake, grow up, it's only a bug, stop moaning and just brush it off, God!'' And if I were to prounce around shaking it off, they would just look at me and go, ''what a freak, let's get out of here!'' And will mean it literally.

I always wish I had charisma so that whatever I was doing was socially acceptable.

One I had a lot in skewl was that others would bully me & I'd get told by the teacher that they were just joking but when I tried to joke I would get accused of being a bully & get in trouble for it.

Fnord touched on something. Hypocrisy is about morals and ethics. That word is used to describe smaller issues and bad habits as well. In that case, it isn't hypocrisy, but lack of awareness of your own idiosyncrasies or maybe just a bad memory.

I don't think this is the same as double standards as such, but I remember when my brother was 24 he had a habit of going out and getting really drunk, and my mum used to lecture him, saying at 24 he should start taking responsibility for his own actions. My brother's over 30 now and he does drink responsibly, but our cousin is 25 and she goes out and gets really drunk a lot, and my mum just laughs as if it is expected of a 25-year-old to get so drunk. But when my brother was that age it wasn't expected.

Another example is when I was 14 and my bedroom was messy with clothes on the floor and books and bags and stuff, and my mum and my aunt said something like, "you're 14 years old now, I'd have thought you'd have learnt how to keep a tidy bedroom", but when my cousin turned 14 and had a messy bedroom, my mum and my aunt just grinned and said, "that's a typical teenager's bedroom!"

I mean, how do the standards suddenly change? When I'm a certain age I'm told what I do is babyish, then when someone else reaches that same certain age and does the same thing I did at their age, it's all accepted. Confused.com.

^^ After the first one turns out OK, they figure that the nagging was a waste of time.

Joe

Plenty of times, someone had the nerve to tell me "what the f**k you looking at?"

Plenty of times someone told me to make more eye contact

Double standard