Apparently we have our own concept on what fake is

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The thing I find fascinating is people being two faced .

I used to be able to sit for hours watching my mother. She would talk to someone for an hour about how dreadful someone was, they would leave and the person she was taking about would turn up . Then she would talk to them for an hour about how much she hated the person that just left. None of my mothers so called friends seemed to like each other one bit . If two of or more of them got together with her it was an out assault
on whoever didn't happen to be there at the time .

i have always taken a stance of disbelief when i talk to people. i have a problem which makes me think that most people are lying when they talk, and i am not interested in what they say as a result.

i know i should give their stories the "benefit of the doubt", but my doubts are difficult to ignore. if i have no proof that what someone says to me is true, then i will most often discard what they say as a probable lie.

all the world is fake. people wear hats for no reason and they get themselves emblazoned with tattoos that are permanent and seriously unpliable in their message
they pierce themselves and then they trot themselves out for public scrutiny.

people live for people and i am not included in that circuit.

I can see what your Mother meant up to a point.

I don't lke my neighbous on either side as they have given me a clear message that they think they are above me and I've had set tos with them in the past but it just makes life easier to act in an accommodating way in terms of doing things like taking in parcel deliveries for them as then it means they will do the same for us. Our paths hardly ever cross anyway so it's no big deal.

It's the convenience/not wanting any hassle aspect as opposed to liking them or the desire for a friendship aspect. It's generally better to be on neutral/civil terms with another human than hostile terms as you are then more likely to get compliance from them if you need something from them.

who's mother? surely not mine! you are very non specific in your conversational style.

Hello,

when I read the topic line, I thought yes that's it.... I write down my - as yet not very organized - thoughts, before I go and try to separate my child from Minecraft.
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NT's are fake in every possible way, as was said in this thread.
I'm NT - so the above and the rest (do a quick search in this forum along the lines of "NT's are ...." is meant to apply to me. (I like to be thorough so I spent something like six month reading back pages and back threads in all subforums until it seemed to me as if topics and opinions started to repeat themselves.)

I was brought up on the saying (or quote) "Mit Höflichkeit kann man sich die Leute besser vom Leib halten als mit Grobheit"?
Meaning - all those little social rules are not fake, they are genuine and help to keep people at a distance without interfering with the functioning of the group. They endure me, I endure them. And no, they don't think I am friends with them, they know I follow the rules.
Those rules serve a de-escalating purpose (see Babel Fish)

Gossip on the other hand, follows different rules. There are a number of interesting studies on that topic, but you'll have to find them yourself, as I can't access my reading list at the moment. (USB sticks are very usefull, but so small.)

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And before I go, a thank you (another empty social rule), because, my reading here has introduced me to:
a great book written by a member ("Congratulations ....")
a number of books and TV series that were unknown to me
references to online lectures I would't have found on my own
and a collection of things that may or may not turn out to be problematic for my child

Again thank you

Ennik

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