Do you feel verbal aggression from others very deeply?

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Yeah, I feel very invaded by such stuff. It messes up my sense of 'inside' and 'outside,' if that makes any sense: people intruding to a private, internal level where they shouldn't be. It makes me feel inside-out (or something). It's less that when I was a kid, tho.

Luckily, nowadays), I just tend to freeze and stare, and being tall, large and male (and middle-aged) makes that seem intimidating, I think. When I was younger I think I looked nervous (or something...) a lot, and I got a lot more crap from random strangers, then.

You probably look like a decent person which is why those jerks called you out. And, it always seems like bullies/predators have a finely tuned instinct of who to target. I recall reading somewhere that people with PTSD tend to have a higher rate of re-victimization. I'm not sure if I properly understood what that meant, but it seems to imply that predators can tell who has and hasn't been victimized before and target those who have. Isn't human Nature wonderful?

I feel the same way about it. It does affect me deeply, and I have been bullied a lot throughout my life. It really does seem that these people have some sort of ability to focus on those of us most vulnerable to their nasty, unprovoked behavior. These days, I tend more and more to keep to myself and do things on my own, rather than trying to be out in public and socializing... just for that reason.

I´ve always been criticized for taking things too hard, overreacting to verbal aggression, being devastated and turning it in my mind too much.
I thought, it was the bullying, that made me so, but it probably wasn´t.

I do, even when it's not directed at me. My husband has a hair-trigger temper, especially in the car--even if I'm driving. One of these days I'm going to remember to tell him, "Boy, it sucks to be you!" Either that or just fling open the car door and jump out and run away.