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My slightly younger sister has a intellectual disability/ADHD/ODD. She isn't really NT..in fact, she also has many clear ASD traits and was misdiagnosed PDD as a kid.

She has strong, restricted interests, overall poor social skills, and a high need for structure. Growing up, she was the one my parents focused on and gave all of their attention to because she had so many challenging behaviors. She would fight constantly with our family, and my parents would often get into shouting matches with her. I retreated from this chaotic home life by staying out of everyone's way, becoming quiet/extremely passive and pursuing my own interests. She has calmed down considerably now that she has matured a little and now lives in an amazing group home with excellent staff who truly like her and care about her well-being, instead of taking her behaviours personally.

I love her, but she can a tough kid to deal with as she gets argumentative pretty easily. We have our moments though, and during the brief times she comes home we talk about various things in her life. I have always wanted an NT sibling, just to have a model for what NT behavior should look like and someone to bond with. I didn't have that growing up.

I'm the eldest of three children, and as such I was expected to be more mature and took a lot of blame for things they did wrong.

My sister is a year younger. She's NT, although she has obsessive interests like me and has always had temper tantrums/meltdowns when angry or upset. Even recently (I'm 23, she's 22) she gave me the silent treatment and stomped around everywhere while we were out together. I still have no idea what I said or did to upset her. As a teenager she was suspected of having BPD and/or anger issues but she calmed down once she got older. However, she's a very social person and likes being in charge, so she dominates a lot of our conversations. We get along pretty well now as we have similar interests, but as kids we didn't interact much.

My brother is four years younger than me. He was the spoilt baby of the family. I'd say he has some AS features like most of my immediate family do. He has no direction in life and no intention to figure out what he wants to do - he spends all his time playing online games, barely eats or sleeps. I think he occasionally goes to college. He does have a few friends although he rarely goes out, they visit him because they can all smoke weed in the house as my dad is never around.

My brother (highly educated) had many autistic traits (I believe, that he actually was autistic): had meltdowns, best at relating to one fellow student and his closest colleagues, very blunt, very messy, wasn´t good at speaking about emotions. Didn´t speak before age 4, but then he spoke in correct sentences from day one. He taught himself to read russian in order to follow Gasparovs theories on chess.
Social: Very witty and charming, - and completely remote at times. Wanted to be close to family, but it was very difficult for him. He loved travelling and meeting cultures, so he loved his job (working on educational programmes in Mongolia).

I have an NT brother, older than me by 18 months.

One younger sister, definitely NT (but gifted).

I have one brother and two sisters. I'm not close to them due to age differences, and the fact I moved away at eighteen. I was annoyed with them growing up because I was always supposed to be the "responsible" one, and they always had to tag along where I went.