Those pesky NT's & their 'teaching moments'

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I don't understand her behavior anyway. I've met women like that and I avoid them as much as possible. Maybe she was trying to point out that what you were saying was common knowledge and you were boring people? I don't know. She sounds like a passive-aggressive, obnoxious person though.

Sounds like jealousy or something. Maybe some people are so dull and incurious that they assume the only reason to go into detail about such a thing would be to assert status by impressing people with your knowledge. It couldn't just be that you were interested in sharing what you learned. Nooo, everything is a shallow means to an end. Nobody ever cares about knowledge for the sake of knowledge.

To be honest I can't be sure exactly what was going on there so take this with a grain of salt. Don't just assume that you did something wrong though. They shouldn't be able to get away with that.

Don't let one inconsiderate person put you off going to church. You will often find some people that are off with you whoever you are in any group. That doesn't mean you can't find somewhere you find people to support your walk with Christ. I think it is worth the effort to try other churches. Maybe you could try a friends church.

My Aspergers is only HALF the problem for churchs.

My DH committed a crime & got away with it. Except for his consciouse. So, he confessed and was sentenced to hard time in the State Corrections Dept. edited to add: he confessed, repented and has made amends where he can. Every other church we've approached has NOT allowed him (& this church was founded by the Deacon from the local First Baptist Church when they had a member go to prison & when he got out 10 yrs later they told him he wasn't welcome). So, there's more to the story (what was that dude's name? Oh, yeah, PAUL HARVEY)

Funny, but if you polled members of those "Christian churches" if it is a Bible believing, New Testament preaching then they would admitt that Jesus died for ANYONE who sins, for ANY sin & that "no sin is unforgivable" once it's been confessed & repented for...but that doesn't cover some crimes....

So how are you feeling about everything after sleeping on the experience, MsMarginalized?

I'm still very happy to see that what I'm feeling is pretty much what everyone else here has said.

The Aspergers still sucks & so does the reaction we get when we disclose my DHs conviction to churchs. (So, obviously: we aren't going to church anymore).

All in all, I'm very glad I posted this thread. Really, my whole life I've gone through similar situations (read: WEIRDNESS) and had no basis for comparison/no understanding why (who I now know are) NTs act so different from the way I am.

I have to say I'm very glad I can come in here & tell y'all something & get so much feedback! (Even IF the feedback were that I was off-base or something....I know I'm not perfect & will mess up sometimes, if ya' know what I mean?)

Really interesting posts by everyone in this topic.

Scia you said what I was trying to say about 'being sorry' much better than I was able to. Thank you.

It is one thing to be a humble person and admit one's failings or especially if one knows or feels one did someone a wrong, but, it's quite another if a group continually makes someone grovel after their approval. To me this situation sounded more like the latter.

Verdandi I've encountered some similar examples of sexism in the past, in life and online although I ran into it way more often in the earlier days of the internet. The 'net isn't as much a male province today, at least in my own experience. But I certainly got dismissed constantly due to being a soft spoken female, but a male with less qualification and/or knowledge would be treated like an oracle...Lol.

2wheels raised a good point that I wasn't sure I wanted to: I am not sure announcing something so personal and which so many are ignorant about, right off the bat, in a group setting, is a great idea. In this case that topic would be having AS, or a past conviction. Get to know them a bit first and maybe approach the pastor or leader with it first and ask them for their advice how to handle it.

My Boss has decided she needs to "train" me on how to compose emails as she says my emails are too detailed and I include too much in my parentheses and even went so far as to tell me that two people have supposedly complained about how wordy my emails are which include only important things such as date of service, patient's names, and pertinent information I am trying to get across about the status of the patient's account - I work in coding in a hospital...so that was devastating to be told by a totally unprofessional woman how I should compose an email...also, she told me on Friday when I tried updating her on a crisis that was happening at work (something where she herself could get into a lot of trouble if she was intelligent enough to realize it) that I was communicating in a bizarre way; the way she worded it was "you know when I told you about your emails?, well, this is kind of like that...) because I was nervous and was giving her a lot of background details so she could get the full picture...it is a hard thing because on one hand I do think I have Asperger's but on the other hand she is such an unprofessional person who really cannot be counted on for reliable information that I don't know if she is correct or not about my communication style...anyways, I thought this would qualify for a "pesky NT" story :-)

teaching moments... LOL. This has spawned a blog post idea. Thanks so much!