What have people said to you that made you suspect AS?

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Pfft, I didn't suspect anything until I was diagnosed, and then after being diagnosed told them I didn't care and that I thought psychiatry was lame. It was actually only after meeting another person with the same diagnosis as me that I realized my diagnosis was correct.

Don't mind him, that's just his sense of humour.
He's always thinking.
He just stands there with that expression.
What is he mumbling about now?
You have to speak more clearly.
Why do you always have to give the answer before the others have had a chance to think about it?
You are always playing with that watch.
Are you guys tourists, or have you just been paid to look stupid?
So you didn't like the meat today either?
Did you try to say something?
You never know what comes out of that mouth.
What an uncontrolled outburst!
Try to participate a bit more.
He didn't say a lot, but everything he said was completely correct.
Yes, you are also one of the most cynical persons I have ever met.
You seem a bit lost.
(Upon checking my passport in a liquor store) Twenty-seven???
Wow, you're strange.
Why do you look miserable?
You don't look me in the eyes at all.
[The potential employer] mustn't know you have that little interest.
Oh, you took that literally?
Does your brain work differently than for the rest of us?

the school system placed me into a program for AS/HFA and I took the clue.I honesty did not know anything about ASD disorders until I was diagnosed.

"Do you have Asperger's?" --clerk at video store

Actually, this is fun

"Darnit would you stop being so shy?"

"What's that your doing with your hands?"

"Nice fish hands"

"Act your age not your shoe size"

"You act like a guy"

"What is wrong with you?"

"Are you trying to be annoying?"

"You go on and on about the same thing whenever you speak"

"STOP STARING OUT THAT DOOR"

"no.. no.. don't look at the door.. (iliketrees) stop it.. you're scaring people"

"You look lost"

"You're just weird"

"Look me in the eyes"

"Were you dropped on your head as a baby?" (I was )

"Aspergers.. Asperger's... Asperger's..." (some guy just says that whenever he sees me)

"You're really not good at keeping a conversation going.. I'm gonna teach you, no matter now long it takes"

This is really amusing to me for no reason.

"You are the weirdest (normal) person I have ever met"
"If you just made eye contact, people would like you more"
"Stop being such a fussy eater"
"You have a very odd personality"
"You always have a smile on your face"
"You always look angry"
"There is NO WAY someone with your high intelligence can't find work. You must have a rap sheet or are a pathological lair"
"You are a dirty player/cheater"
"You are even more rigid than I am"

"You have no common sense"
"For a smart girl you're pretty stupid"
"You have to learn everything the hard way"
"Your hair is a rat's nest"
"You have to start taking pride in how you look"
"Stop picking!! !"
"You have no sense of direction"
"Space cadet"
"Why do you make things so complicated?"
"You have to think before you do"
"You would lose your head if it weren't screwed on to your shoulders"
"You take everything too literally"
"You don't know what you're laughing at"
"Stop staring at the ground when you walk!"
"You're a klutz/accident prone!"
"You walk/run funny/ like Charlie Chaplin"
"Stop slouching!"
"You need to think about how what you do affects others"
"You keep doing the same things over and over"
"You don't know when to stop / you keep carrying on and on"
"You have an uncanny ability to say really mean/rude things and then do something amazingly nice that erases all those other things"
"What's wrong with her (me)?"
"Why do you say things like that?"
"Where did THAT (thing that I said) come from?!"
"Are you on something" (drugs)
"Stop asking so many questions!! !"
"You're too serious/silly"
"Why are you so immature?"
"You're like a mad creative genius or something"

I actually discovered AS before I ever suspected that I might be a member of the club. The things I've heard over the years I acknowledged after the fact that they were describing AS.

You're very intelligent but you don't apply yourself. (Haven't we ALL heard that?)
Slow down! I can't understand a word you're saying!
SSH! Don't talk so loud.
(When I've zoned out) Hello?! Where are you?
You're so clumsy you could trip over air.
That was a joke. I was just messing with you.
You know you walk on your toes? (Heard this twice in three days.)
Get to the point!
Stop clicking your fingernails/shaking your leg/tapping your fingers.
You're rocking again.
No, I didn't know that, Cliff. (after Cliff Claven, the know-it-all mailman on Cheers)
People don't like it when you correct them.
Why can't you eat grown-up food? (I love stuff like canned spaghetti and Vienna sausages.)
Do you HAVE to use those college words? Why can't you talk like a normal person?
If you want friends, you have to go out where people are. They're not gonna come beating down the door.
You don't have to know everything about everything,
(At a rare party) You just sit there and watch people and never say a word.
If you want to get anywhere, you have to be more of a team player.
How can your apartment be such a mess and yet your books and records are organized so perfectly?
Are you planning on doing laundry any time soon?
Are you going to comb your hair today?
That shirt you're wearing has a hole in it.
Why can't you hold on to a job?
I would NEVER have guessed you were that old! (I'm 53. The general consensus is that I look about 37.)
Stop getting so mad. He's just teasing you.
I just told you that. You never listen.
You're so smart to not have a lick of common sense.
I'm not playing Trivial Pursuit with you. You always win.
How do you remember stuff like that?
You're so gullible. You trust people too easily.
What you said to him was rude. It hurt his feelings.
He was flirting with you. Didn't you notice?
Just call them. They're not going to eat you.
I tried to make her a lady, but it didn't take. (My mom talking about my lack of femininity.)

"You're so gullible"
"What a spaz/goofball"
"You're not getting the big picture!"
"You couldn't have read all those books so fast"
"Not everything is so black and white"
"You only know me when you want something"
"You have to look where you're going!! !"
"Stop touching the walls/the clothes on the rack/everything! Learn to keep your hand to yourself!"
"Stop interrupting! Learn to wait your turn"
"How do you manage to get so dirty?"
"Stop talking so loud/Raise your voice"
"You're writing so small nobody will ever be able to read that!"
"Stop tuning me out!"
"You're so stubborn!"
"You're so self absorbed"

"Why are you so quiet?"

"You zone out a lot."

"You're a very smart kid"

"You can't take a joke."

"I can't hear you. Speak up!"

"You're a very strange kid."

"I suspected that you have Asperger's."

"You tend to sit by yourself a lot."

"I won't hug you if it offends you."

"You're so nice!"

"You obviously have some kinda problem with understanding how you make other people feel." - Not very tolerant former friend.

"In all my years I have never taught someone who has the problems you do." - Not very tolerant former driving instructor.

"I have never come across a child like your son" - Not very tolerant primary school head.

"Didn't you pick up on all that tension between them both?"

Wife: "You look really really angry." Me: "Erm, no. I'm fine. Not angry at all."

Me: "I've been looking into it and I'm pretty sure I might have Asperger's syndrome." Mother: "...oh...yes...I thought you already knew that?"

"You're so good at poker - you show no expressions so you're impossible to read."

Some of these were tipoffs to AS and others should have been if I was not living in a bit of denial at the time.

Stupid things people say to Aspies:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BB48dvpzWy4

I am not diagnosed yet, but my children have autism..

A lot of people have told me I don't show emotion, eg if something good happens or something bad I just have a blank expression and not really get excited or cry or whatever

I get told I am always daydreamy and in a world of my own

People always say "I was only joking"

You always smell everything, that's weird

I can't remember what else...

"Grow up." / "I thought you were younger than me, not older! You don't act like it!"
"You're so gullible!"
"It was just a joke, don't take it so personally."
"Stop beginning conversations with 'You know [this], right...' - no, we don't know!"
"No one else thinks like you."
"I find you interesting, you have unusual opinions."
"You're a terrible lier. / Are you lying?"
"Quit biting your nails/sniffing things/drumming your fingers/tapping/rocking!"
"Calm down, there's no point getting so worked up about it!"
"You do the exact same thing every day?"
"You're such a weirdo / you're such a freak."
"No, you're the weird one."
"You were really annoying/upsetting that person! Didn't you notice?"
"I can't believe you just said/did that!"
"Look at me when I'm talking to you."
"Do you have Asperger's?"

"I think that you might be autistic"